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writes: Where to begin...ah yes, the beginning. I was in a three year relationship with a boy I have known since highschool. He is 25, and I am 23. I must admit that due to depression over the suicide of my high school sweetheart, I stayed in this relationship purely for the comfort, and for the fear of losing yet another person that is close to me. Anyways, our relationship became quite sour over the last two years. We were destined to break up. At one of the now ex-boyfriend's musical performances, I met a boy that has been running in the same circle of friends that I run with, but we had never officially met prior to this particular evening. The moment I saw him, I wanted him. At this point, the ex b/f and I were pretty much broken up, so I thought it to be okay to lust after another man. We talked the entire night. Oh yes, he is also 21 years old - just thought I'd add that. I felt that there was an instant connection. Since he was also friends with the current ex b/f, and now myself, we exchanged numbers. A couple weeks later, he called and asked if I could give him a ride to his show. (He is an extremely talented musician as well) Of course, I obliged, hoping to make another impression on him. We had a fabulous evening together. We were both feeling incredibly comfortable with each other. After the show, we drove up the coast a bit and talked about everything. It is quite amazing that we could tell each other anything even after knowing one another for such a short time, but that's the way it went. We went back to his house at like 2:30 in the morning and watched a brilliant film called "Eraserhead". We cuddled up together and dozed off in each other's arms. Eventually we went to his bedroom and fell asleep. It was nice to be with such a gentleman who didn't try to get into my pants. I think part of this was because he probably felt bad about my recent breakup (not for me, but for the ex b/f). We woke up the next morning and went out for cereal. We spent the next few days together and then went to Disneyland on the weekend. We were already taking eight hour road trips with each other!!! Since that night, with the exception of one week when he went to Portland, we have spent every night together at my parent's house. We lay in my bed talking all night. He tells me that he has never talked with a girl the way he can talk to me. Obviously, by this point we have kissed each other, etc.. (We have only had sex once by this point.) He talks about his ex girlfriend a lot though, who I know he broke up with because she was crazy and jealous all the time, but he still wants to be friends with her. He knows that I like him, but I can't tell if he likes me. I think he does, but is afraid I will hurt him. He seems to think that people fall in love with me all the time and I break their hearts. I can't really help that though. He says he loves my warmth and how we are so honest with each other. He brings me to meet all of his friends, cooks me nice dinners, flakes on everyone but me for some reason, expresses interest in traveling the country with me (he tells me that we will go everywhere together), but then he tells me that he is not sure if he wants me to be his girlfriend. He is afraid of a commitment with me for some reason. He probably thinks that I will change and become jealous and possessive like his other girlfriends. The thing is, we are already like boyfriend and girlfriend just without the title, and obligations. I am blinded by love for him, but am stupidly unsure of where I stand in his mind. I am afraid to get too attached for fear that he will just leave me. What are basic signs that a boy likes you...loves you?? He is leaving for Boston tonight and coming back the day after I leave for Hawaii so we won't see each other for 17 days. I don't want him to forget about me. He is wishy washy with others, and I'm afraid he will become this way with me. I guess that I just don't know...How do I tell if he will be mine??
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reader, REBECCA +, writes (13 April 2005):
HiHave you told other b/f it's over? If yes you have nothing to lose but to ask this guy how he feels about you! But you must be honest and if this guy has problems with trust then let him work them out before you get into a serious relationship and be there for him! Don't lie to him as this will break all ties you have with him.If you are away from each other for a while this might make him think more about you so try to send him texts or emails and tell him how you feelTake Care
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reader, joem dakin +, writes (13 April 2005):
Well ask them were you stand. Don't be afraid.
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