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female
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36-40,
*tsME
writes:I'm 14 years old and I have this best friend who I love so much! its a guy! hes so cute, nice, and funny and he nos I like him... but I want him to like me too... we've been best friends since we were 2. some times he tells me that he likes me the same way, but he still goes out with other girls and tells me who he likes and I think that when he said that he liked me he was kidding.... or maybe he just acted like that because he was shy.... now its sort of turning into a really confusing game... how do I make him like me alot? and actually mean it when he says he likes me??
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reader, nologo  +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Look, I do not care here how old you are.
I guess that he treats you like a friend.
"he still goes out with other girls and tells me who he likes"
There are guys who act in such way with their female friends.
Change the pattern here: first put this friendship on brake.
Find differences between you and the girls he goes out with.
You should do this before making any attempts to turn him on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): I know this isn't the kind of answer you're looking for, but this is coming from my own experience and hindsight:
At your age and through high school/college, you should try to get to know as many guys as possible, go on dates, etc. I *do not* mean anything sexual. Even though it may seem impossible, your own personal tastes are likely to change over the next few years as you mature. And the more expore you have to different guys, the more you can begin to understand what charactaristics are good/normal/bad. For example, even if your best friend is "the one" for you, unless you've really gotten to know a few other guys, later in life you will realize he has quirks/issues that bother you to some degree, and you will begin to wonder if all men have these problems, or if it was just him.
Also, as far as how to get a guy, I think showing some interest and then playing "hard to get" is an old trick, but it still works. I personally remember being disinterested in girls that were overly interested in me. Of course, it's not a recipe, and there's never any guarantees because everybody's different.
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reader, myp +, writes (6 June 2007):
 Fact is babe, if your not sure ask him straight out. You'll never know for sure unless you get a serious answer. On the other hand, if you want to be more than just friends, then you have to show him you're interested. Flirt a little bit, dont be afraid of your sexuality and he'll see you as something other than his best friend.
-Myesha
P.s. when i say dont be afraid of your sexuality im not suggesting you sleep with him...unless thats what you want. Never do something that would make you feel uncomfortable to get a guy to take an interest in you.
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