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writes:I've been hanging out with this girl for the past 2 months(i know im slow). We have a pretty good friendship and I could tell it was heading towards a relationship. We had an awesome couple of days planned(aka dates) and basically we broke down and confessed we liked each other. Things were great but we never labelled it. Then other plans and vacations got in the way. She headed south for a friends get together. She texted me a couple of times early Sunday morning but didn't really say anything that I needed to respond to. She was on vacation with her friends and I figured I'd leave her alone. We just spent that last couple of days together and texting Saturday. So I didn't reach back out to her until Monday night. We texted a little bit on Monday. It didn't seem the same. The next day I sent a text message asking her about her about a race we talked about doing and nothing. I've gotten radio silence since then. She's blowing up Instagram and Snapchat but not talking to me.. :( Whats going on with her? I keep feeling like I upset her or I waited to long to text her back and now she's just pissed at me. If she really wanted to contact me she'd message me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2017): It was like 3am in the morning saying were on the road. I had already sent have a safe trip text at 10:30pm the previous night. Im justifying.. I know. I tried to meet up with her that night to talk about us and she was busy getting ready amd pretty busy. I convinced myself to give it a day of rest and let her have sometime. Should of just sent something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2017): Some women base your feelings and interest in them on how quickly you respond to their text messages. Personally, I don't have time or patience for such petty immature nonsense.
However; when someone is sharing their vacation experiences, they'd like some comment at least acknowledging that you're glad they kept you in-mind. You should at least say something nice in response to hearing from them. That isn't petty. It's sweet of her. She thought of you while she could have partied and forgot all about you.
Well, for her, you mucked that up. Maybe she will forgive you. If she doesn't, then that's petty. If she does, then make it up to her. Give her an actual "call!" No pleading or catering to her childishness.
I just don't like conducting my love-life over social media. Maybe that's just me. I expect a little more from a love-interest than mindless-messages and stupid emojis; and I don't expect, nor send, an immediate reply to generic messages.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (20 August 2017):
 Call her. You need to stop this texting business and pick up your phone and talk to her. I personally dislike texts because a lot of lost in translation. It's an easy way out to escape having an actual conversation but if you like this girl and want something to happen, then make it happen! Stop hiding and no more waiting games. If you spoke on Saturday then you didn't have to wait till Monday to get in touch. It's things like this that piss people off
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reader, Allumeuse  +, writes (19 August 2017):
You have probably correctly identifI ed your mistake. There isn't much you can do about making it right except let her know that you misread her attempts at connection and you are sorry if she felt slighted as this was not your intention. The meta question is do you want to be with a girl that punishes you for not responding to her every whim?
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reader, PJ Roy  +, writes (19 August 2017):
Call her. Once.
If she does pick up, talk about her holidays, talk about the adventures she's posted on Instagram. Leave it to her to bring up the 'race' plan which she ought to know you are waiting for her response about.
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