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writes: I broke up with my ex a year and a half ago. This was the second time we have been together. He was my first love and I was his. After our first break up we didn't talk for a long time, and when we did eventually start talking we got together at a party, but only for a night (although he wanted more). We soon got back together again (lasting 6 months) but we broke up and he met his current girlfiend of 6 months. Recently at a party he kissed me and was flirting and admited he still loved me - but he also loves his girlfriend. Ii have fallen back in love with him - and I dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2005): You won't apprecaite my honest answer... Let him go. It sounds as though he has hormones coming out his ass. Let the guy have some fun... if you two really love one another he will be there down the road (in a few years).
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reader, Angel-lee +, writes (15 April 2005):
Darlin', I'm in the same situation. Dont let it get you down. I know love can be painful. I was with my boyfriend for 5 years, since I was 14, I'm now 19 and we split up a year ago. I love him with all my heart, we split up so many times I lost count but I didn't care; I still loved him. Anyway we split up a year ago and he moved in with someone else after 4 months of us splitting up! I work with his mum and his two sisters which is a bit wierd I know, but his mum, who I love very much, almost like a second mum. She told me of the news. I kept my cool and said it didn't bother me but deep down inside it hurt so bad. I had put my all in to that relationship and now someone else just strolls into his life and takes over. I was fuming! I haven't seen him since we split up well maybe once or twice. So I really don't know if he still loves me. I could tell by the way he looked at me before, that he loved me. What I'm trying to get at is, people can fall out of love just as easily as they fall out of love and they can fall back in love just as easily as they feel out of love. It's just human nature. People change. In your case, I would take the initutive, tell him how you feel, tell him you still love him and that you want him back, tell him you cant see a future without him in it. Really go for it. Once you have told him how you feel, leave it for a couple of days, weeks, months, as long as it takes. His brain will be going over time...thinking about you and what to do. After you have told him how you feel keep your distance for a while, he wont be able to think if you are there nagging him about it all the time. Men need space, give him it! Then after about 2, maybe three weeks (if he hasn't contacted you already) text him, or email him, or write him a letter. What ever is more convenient, with a few words in it, a few words that mean a lot. Like, I miss you more each day, don't write who its from, he will know. Or something like, no one can love you like I can, or mention a time you had together that you both enjoyed. He doesnt want to be reminded of the time you had a huge argument in front of his family and called him a mummies boy! Nah, only kidding. Give him sonething to reminisce about, it will drive him crazy. If he hasn't contacted you by now, he will do anytime soon.
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