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writes: I am in the first sexual relationship after a LTR ended. She is just a little more sexually experienced than me, and I find myself wanting to try things I've never done before sexually. I hate to ask details about her past, because i dont want to pry and I know from expereince she gets uncomfortable when I ask questions. But I honestly want to know how special some acts are to her too. I mean, I know she has not done anal, and we are planning on trying that. But other stuff...like cumming on her face, certain unusual positions, etc...I find myself wanting to ask her if she's done this or done that, but I stop myself for fear of being invasive. But then I become filled with paralyzing curiosity wondering if it is new to her too, or not.How do I get over this...or is there a way I can ask that isn't intrusive? How do you women feel when a guy asks if you've done such and such?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): There is no way a man can win on the subject of women's past.
I have heard the Dearcupid crowd bitch at men for wanting a woman with more experience, wanting her with less, wanting to hear about it, for not wanting to hear about it when she does, for thinking it doesn't matter when she does, or vice versa, etc. Everything.
The only common thread among all the opinions is that if there is a disagreement, then the man is wrong and totally insensitive to what she is going through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): I personally would feel insulted if a man asked me if I had done these things before. I NEVER tell my BF about my past. As long as we have both gotten tested and are negative, ITS NONE OF HIS Fing business. I also don't want to know what he's done sexually.
If he wanted to know, he can ask me,....Um baby how do you feel about me cuming on your body or even your face? what about Anal?
Me: Umm sorry im not into that, I feel its degrading to women. I don't want to try anal, Its not something I feel comfortable doing I hate it! I think My mouth, hands and V are enough.
And oh by the way, A guy would probably never come in my face unless I wanted him to because I rarely give oral and when I do its just for foreplay not to finish him off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Hey bud!
This is normal you feel curious. However, Id fight it off as you could end up being jealous. She's with you now man...and thats what matters. If u splatter her face it'll prob be the best she's ever had even if some guy did it before you. Believe me man I am the jealous type too...big time and theres nothing more satisfying to me than when a woman says "Ive never been hosed down like that before!". Whether its something she's tried or something new, you'll still cater to what both people like and tweak a little bit to get full satisfaction from whatever u do so that you will both be the best each other has had and thats what counts. Look towards the future man...Id say you have some exciting stuff to look forward to :)
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Are you sure you aren't opening a can of worms here? As in- will you look at her differently or have a hard time getting over knowing what she's done in her sexual past if she actually tells you? For example- she tells you she's done a foursome with three guys... would you be fine with that knowledge?
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