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writes:im having an affair with a 21 year old, but are still very much inlove with my wife, who on her end claim she divorced me coz of this girl, i so much wana get back with my wife and make things rite with her but only problem is this girl fell pregnant and is now 4 months... Is there any hope for me and my wife? Can i still save wats left of my marriage? I desperately need help, i dont wana loose my family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): You can try, but I will be honest, If my man ever cheated on me, I would walk away and NEVER forgive him. Most people can't get over it. I would also never want any thing to do with him. Plus you are fathering a child UGH! good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): dear OP, i got news for you: you already lost your marriage and wife. this is what happens when you have an affair - you lose everything dear to you. Pal, you destroyed your marriage, let your wife be. you have not shown one ounce of remorse or even rectifying your wrongs. you are still Fing your lover. and now she s got you by the short and curlies with her pregnancy.
you destroyed your marriage bec of your affair and the good news is that your wife will survive and move on. Pal, you have not learnt anything from your divorce.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 For your a actions I don't think you have any say whether your marriage lasts. Your wife most likely doesn't trust you now and even if you dance the magic dance, I am sure shes not going to buy it. I would leave the decision to her, the time for you getting what you want is well and truly over...you already messed up big time!!
That said, if she does decide to have you back then you need to seriously deal with your issues. I pity the poor girl you left pregnant, I really wish men would think about their actions and take responsibility, but most never do and just expect everyone to accomodate them. This is the very reason why relationships are in such a disgusting state...Im not going to say good luck because I dont think she should take you back...but because women are still considered second class citizens who are reliant on men for security and love, I am sure she will.
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