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We've been together for a short time and he wants a threesome for his b-day! Should we do this?

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Question - (1 November 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 2 November 2007)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have a BF that wants a threesome for his birthday we have been together only a short time is this a good idea

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (2 November 2007):

Collaroy agony auntI would ask him what he thinks about a threesome for you on your birthday, this time 2 guys and you. ( I can only assume that he wants two girls for his birthday ).

I only say this because as you two have been together for a short time it is worrying that he is coming out with the threesome fantasies already. I would expect he might be shocked at having to share you with another man, maybe you can point out the hypocrisy of the situation.

Good luck anyway, maybe you should dump this guy, I feel from what little you have said ,that he is not showing you the proper respect.

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A female reader, girlwhoneedshelp United Kingdom +, writes (1 November 2007):

girlwhoneedshelp agony auntPersonally I never think three somes are a good idea as they can cause all sorts of trouble. If you are just starting out in your relationship i'd say this is a big no no. Do you love him? Does he love you? Has this been established yet. Is it another woman he wants to have a three some with? You should consider lots of things before you go ahead with something like this. Remember he is YOUR boyfriend and imagine how jealous you will feel when you see him having sex with someone else? Do you think you will be able to handle that? He might THINK he wants a three some but if he sees you having sex with someone else he might reconsider as his jealousy kicks in. I really recommend you don't do this.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007):

If you have to ask, it's not a good idea. If it was a good idea, you'd have thought of it first!

Phil

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A male reader, Asexy United States +, writes (1 November 2007):

Asexy agony auntHow do you feel about it? If it bugs you, then don't even consider it. After it's all over, you have to be able to live with yourself (not to mention still look at him) and if it's going to bug you, it's a really bad idea.

If it sounds sexy to you too, then you might try it. But I really wouldn't do it if you're even the teensiest bit disinclined.

Now, if you say no, what do you think his reaction will be? If he gets upset, leave him. He needs to respect what you feel you can do. Your body, your rules. Period.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007):

If you want to, let him do that. But it would be like watching your BF having sex with another person.

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