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writes:I had an affair with a guy at work for almost 2 years. We ended it abruptly because his wife found out. I also bring my son to the daycare at work, and I have an important position with the company. I started looking for another job anyway, but the benefits are just not like I already have. My question is should I still push to leave my current job just in case the angry wife decides she wants to tell my employer or even worse my husband?? We completely avoid each other (me and the guy) at work, and do not communicate anymore at all. I am just wondering if I HAVE to leave...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers. Even though it's been a month since she found out, she is still threatening to come into the workplace and expose us. The sooner I get out of here, the better. Luckily I have already found another job, I just need to accept it. As for daycare for my son, I will manage. Next Friday will be my last day in this hell, and I can start all over again without having to always watch my back. My advice to anyone considering an affair - - the grass is NOT greener on the other side. Find the good things in your marriage and concentrate on them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Write the wife a letter of apology. If you think that will ease her mind. I would look for another job. If you've been there a while, then you probably won't find anything better right off the bat. You'll probably have to work your way up a bit in a new company. But in the long run, I think it's worth it, for the peace of mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): You pick a great time to think about the consequences of this affair. Having an affair is bad news but with someone you work with is ten times worst. I hope she does tell your husband he has a right to know. He is going to become very skeptical if you just up and leave your important position for a less desirable one. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Which is more important to you, hun? Your marriage and your family? or your job? If you leave, the chances are his wife will be satisfied. If you stay, she will possibly make life miserable for you. You stand to lose both your job and marriage. To every wrong done, there are consequences. If I were you, I'd do as Asexy suggested..start looking for a new job.
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reader, Asexy +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Depends on how long it's been, and what the wife thinks his temptation to be with you is. If it's been a while and she hasn't said anything, chances are she won't. But if she thinks (right or wrong) that his interest in you might renew, then she might do whatever she feels she has to.I would continue to look for a new job anyway, just in case. But unless you find a better position, you're probably safe. Just stay away from the guy (like you've been doing).
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