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writes:Me and my bf have been together for 2 months now. For ages he would want to see me all the time, non stop. But now he doesnt, hes fine with not seeing me all the time. I guess the honeymoon phase for him is over? I however still cant get enough of him. Him acting like this made me feel pretty bad baout myself, so i became a bit distant and then suddenly he was all over me like a rash again! then as soon as i was all over him like a rash in return he changes. idont get this. its like in order for me to recieve what i feel i need/want i have to act distant but i dont like acting distant because i want to show him how much i like him. any advice?? we are 19 by the way. Reply to this Question
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (21 March 2008):
 Your bf obviously likes the thrill of the chase and that is like a lot of men, not all I grant you.
He is still young and so are you so it is a time of experiencing different emotions.
You can't go on like this forever as it just isn't fair on you. It will be hard but you do need to get yourself involved in other things so that you are not constantly pining for him. Show him that you are more than capable of leading a life without him and that may give him the jolt that he needs, spend time with other male friends as well as female. Your bf may not like it but I am afraid that he is not yet mature enough to handle the type of relationship you need and want.
I don't know what the outcome will be in this relationship but you cannot go on feeling bad about yourself as it isn't you who has the problem with committment it is your bf's problem.
You need someone who wants to be with you and likes being loving towards you, I am not convinced that this is something your bf can give you.
In the meantime get your life together and keep yourself busy and you may discover that there are other males out there who are more considerate and you enjoy their company. I am not saying that you definitely need to end things with your bf but don't keep on being clingy or you will push him away as like I said before he is not mature enough yet to handle something that heavy.
He may want to keep his options open right now and not tie himself to one girl so bear that in mind as well. Sorry to put it like that but you don't need to waste your life in a relationship that may never give you what you need, only you can decide that one.
Take care.
BFN
Country Woman
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