We've been together 6 years and he's still wondering if he's interested?

A female age 51-59, *ocoagoddess writes:

Why do I continue to drive blind? Tonight my Husbman took me to the bar for a drink. After walking inside, this man followed us to the bar proceeding to hit on me while my husbman ordered our drinks; as if I wasn't standing next to my husbman. Im used to the men hitting on me daily and I tackle those issues individually as they come. on the other hand, my husbman reaction was not a normal one and this brings alert to me!!!Normally he doesn't even give a man the chance to get next to me because I'm usually in his arms. However he seemed hesitant to come to my assistance in making this dude aware of his and our relationship. But due to the major issues {wearing steel-toe boots} our relationship is in the twilight zone. For example, this just happened while composing this issue. He just woke up and is mad because I am sitting outside under the gazeeboo that he built for us to enjoy. Also, he sees me on the computer. I hide nothing and am willing to discuss anything with him; but he wants to know why I am outside, when he already knows that I have to be outside to get the internet connection!Duh! I just know he is angry about what happened at the bar, but I expected him to step up. He did not do so because we have been battling an act of infidelity in our relationship. I have decided to approach the situation as this; we are all sinners and whether you believe in god or not you possess an emotion called COMPASSION, not 'stupidity', but EMPATHY to understand that some of us still battle with being full of ourselves where we utilize habits to make ourself feel good or desired. It is so hard to show yourself true love and understanding, especially when someone-else treats you better than you treat yourself. You have recieved that motivation over and over and over and over and over and over!!{6 years} Now, I am exhausted, I love him but every nite we exhaust ourselves with the same go round of who did what. He went from this being our home to this being his house and he say he is the one that bust his a@@ 8 hours daily for the roof over our heads, followed behind "Why do you have to use so much toilet paper?" Don't leave the spoon laying on the sink after stirring your coffee!! "Rinse it and lay it on top the coffee machine so you can use it again." While I am making dinner, he's hangs out in the kitchen and watch me cook our dinner sometimes he helps or cooks. Now, he will stand behind me and bark orders, and critize what seems to me my every move. Small things are really frustrating him to the point his anger grows greatly out of hand. I beginning to become a matrix ninja, truly stepping lightly as not to desturb our nest of eggs. This ain't working, and so now the crossroads is the Husbman wants me to leave him. No, he hasn't said so. No, I take that back he has but when I tried to leave it seemed to me that walking is not how he actually would like to see me out the door. He has never actually put me out. However, with various tones of disrespect to my person his actions speak louder than words ever could. What I'm not understanding is if he wants to move-on, then why doesn't he? I have given him that option to let him go seize other oppurtunity. All he does is turn it around and shoot me back with it being an excuse to end our relationship. Truly, having a conversation with this man is an excuse to him. An excuse for what, is what I have not figured out!! I only wanted to tell you how my day was, what happened at school, or someimes I will start with "How was your day"? It doesn't matter it all an excuse to hide what I really did that day. He re-writes my whole day for the rest of the night. I am lucky if he gets drunk and fall asleep. Then again its bad someimes because then he's up rooster early wit the %ull#h!t. Help! We have been together 6 years, and he's still asking me am I truly interested in him? Do I love him, No truly love him? I do I do I do. I starting to feel as if I need to exhale.

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