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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Someone please help me...there is this guy that I have been noticing for a while, and about a month ago I hooked up with him. Afterwards it was really awkward and we didn't talk to each other for the longest time because people told him I hated him, and told me he hated me etc. Just recently we sorted things out and now we've been talking a little bit, but the other day one of my closest friends told me that she likes him as well. She's way better friends with him than I am, and every time she's around him while I'm there she is all over him and flirts with him constantly. I told her that I don't care that she likes him, but it's really starting to bother me! What should I do?
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reader, jezman  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 i think that your feelings have enhanced for this boy because your friend is taking an interest.
maybe you think that because you two hooked up, there may have been something and now that your friend has taken a liking to him you may be worried that you will lose the chance of ever going out with him.
i think you should have a chat with her about your recent feelings, im sure she will understand.
i love it when you can find a friendship that makes sure that you will stick with your friend through everything, even crushes.
the only way out of this it to talk to your friend so have a friendly chat with her and im sure you can work it out :)
if your friend really likes this guy then maybe you should think about whether to stick with him and see if your friend's feelings die down
or
maybe you should think about stepping aside :/
OR
forget him altogether and keep your m8s who mean the most anyway :D
i dont know :P have a chat with your friend and tell us how it goes :)
jez x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Tell her that she's embarrassing herself, the boy and you by her stupid behaviour. She may like the boy, but there's no reason for her to make it such a big thing about it. I'm sure he's gotten the idea by now.
Your feelings are your feelings, hers are hers. She's been honest, she's told you how she feels, she's going after what she wants. You've told her you don't care, so she has no reason to stop and no reason to consider your feelings.
The guy?, well we know nothing about how he feels, because nobody's asked him. He's stuck between you two, but nobody knows what he wants, or who he likes. Your girlfriend has nothing to do with the situation between you and this guy. If you want him, tell him, if your not ready then don't. Don't worry about this girl, she's making a fool of herself and everyone can see, but at least she's going after what she wants.
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