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writes:Dear cupid,Recently my boyfriend and I started having anal sex and sometimes (usually doggy posi) I get the urge to fart which as you can imagine is highly embarrasing and noisy to say the least. If we are doing it my bedroom which is quite small it often smells of egg or poop and usually within a minute the icky stuff is coming onto his erection while he does it.Is there anything I can do to avoid embarrasing farts or soft poop during anal sex?pls hlp.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): Anyone who thinks that anal sex is inhumane and wrong simply is uneducated about the matter. What people choose to do with their bodies is exactly that- their OWN business.
I frequently enjoy anal sex with my partner and really, it all comes down to preference. It can be quite pleasurable when done correctly, slowly, and safely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): As with any other post I type, I am an advocate of sex within a marriage. God made our bodies to be enjoyed (I'll stick with the concept of within a marriage). If you are not married, I am not here to pass judgement. Pretty much, if it is consensual, have a go at it. Read and be informed. I have found nothing in the Christian Bible that restricts the jointly consensual sexual activities of a married couple (man and woman).
As far as anal sex, literlly, shit happens. There is another very detailed post here that covers alot of things for being clean (both you and your partner!), and other factors of this particualr and loving sexual act. Lubrication and patience to get the receiver ready is paramount. Being clean is important! My wife and I both like anal sex as well as all other types. She will orgasm from anal sex. Sometimes, shit happens in a literal sense. I am thrilled my wife enjoys it as much as I do. Farts usually result in giggles. Anal sex, like oral, vaginal, or hand manipulation can and should be an enjoyable activitity between a loving couple.
As far as positions, my wife has reported, on the side is easiest entry, missionary is perhaps the most intimate, and doggy style is the most penetrating. I like all the positions. I will reinforce, it is not like a porn movie where what you see (I am sure they prepare very well beforehand!) is the instant insertion of large objects.
Rushing anal sex can result in tears to the sphicnter inside and out and other damage to a woman's body! You then open the risk with a tear to have fecal matter enter the tear. This can lead to a host of problems. If you are willing to do this, you should prepare, and your partner should be prepared to get you ready as well. Foreplay goes a long way for everything - this included.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): Do NOT go to a sex shop for an enema bag... if you MUST, go to a pharmacy (Chemist) and by a "Fleet" brand enema, take it home and DUMP OUT THE LIQUID (it's a laxative and NOT what you want in your bowels prior to sex). Fill it with slightly warm (NOT HOT!) water and wash your rectum out a few times.
Remember the rectum is a passage way NOT a storage location for poo. If your diet is good, you shouldn't have poo in there. Learn what eating certain things does to your poo - some people find pork does funky things to them... and avoid those foods.
As for sounds, learn to love them... after all he has his dick up your ass... have fun with the situation. You can try different positions, so that you don't have air getting pushed inside you. Enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): well my bf and i tried it and it hurt very bad! im scared i will shit on him whenever we try round two... it hurt but i want more. lube lube lube !!!! (:
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reader, gangulyakashdeep  +, writes (26 December 2009):
 go to the nearest sex shop and ask for a anema bag .once u bought it fill it with a little warm water and put the warm water inside ur rectum using the small pipe put the water for inside your rectum for five minets and then poop it out,do all these before few hours from your anal sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): Wow, some small minded answers here...First, if you two are into anal play, you have to be prepared for a little poop. I can tell you in all the years that anal has been on my menu, that I've only had poop encounters a few times (less than 5, and NONE were more than a spec). As for the farting, it's likely air that's being introduced, not gas coming out, so it's nothing to be embarrassed about.If you're ok with your man sticking his cock up you ass, and he's happy to do it- then you shouldn't be worried about either of these things. Enjoy each other, don't judge, don't worry... anal sex can be a lot of fun, if done right.Also, having a BM a few hours before play should be enough. Wash well, a nice warm shower before had, and use a soapy finger to get clean and you should be fine. Poop doesn't reside in the rectum- it's farther up your digestive tract, so as long as you avoid certain foods (some say pork can create funky poop) you should be OK. My GF has never used an enema for anal play, and all is well!
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reader, wette460 +, writes (20 April 2009):
I'm sorry to see you haven't been getting any help on this subject so far. I understand your embarassing problems and I'm glad to hear these problems haven't scarred you for life or grossed you out like it would most girls. Go you! Allow me to give you a few suggestions in order to avoid having these problems in the future: First of all, realize that anal sex is not a very spontaneous thing. In order to do it right and not have any pain or problems, you need to do a little prepping and take a few things into consideration before doing it. 1) BE MINDFUL OF WHAT YOU RECENTLY ATE. If you just ate a bunch of bean burritos from Taco Bell a few hours ago, odds are your horn is going to be tooting when you are wanting to get down to business. If you plan on having anal sex that day, be sure you eat something high in fiber (this will thicken up your stool so if there IS poo in there next time, it will be firm and stay together and not spread all over his penis). 2) DON'T HAVE ANAL SEX WHEN YOU ARE HAVING STOMACH/DIGESTIVE PROBLEMS. This should be a no-brainer. If your piping is upset, don't aggervate it by sticking something up there (unless you are a plumber). 3) TAKE A SHOWER BEFOREHAND. This is a big one. Make sure you clean the exterior of the anus thouroghly. Take a very mild soap (Oil of Olay or some other moisturizing soap) and gently insert a finger into your anus and wiggle it around a bit in order to gently clean the inside of your anus. Make sure you rinse thouroughly. This will get rid of any smell or poo from your last bowel movement. My suggestion is to have anal sex right after you get out of the shower. Your muscles are still relaxed from the heat of the water and you anus is as clean as it is going to get for the rest of the day. If you are feeling any discomfort during anal sex, remember to work at it slowly. Use foreplay, insert a finger first, use a butt-plug...any of these will do the job just fine. Just make sure to use plenty of lube and have him enter you SLOWLY. Most girls that enjoy anal sex will have an orgasm if you do it slowly and provide clitoral stimulation while doing it. However, most of you more experienced readers know that every woman is different and not every woman will achieve one. REMEMBER, YOU ARE IN CONTROL DURING ANAL SEX, NOT THE GUY. If you feel your body isn't ready or you are uncomfortable in any way, tell your guy NO!!..its that easy. If he has a problem with that, than he is a selfish a****e and you probably shouldn't be having sex with him in the first place. Hope this info helps. Now go ahead and have some safe, fun, anal sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): every hole on a womans body is beautiful. you can make love to all of them (i mean anus and pussy).i think ppl dont realize how cute a womans butthole is. its so tight litlle puckered up. soft and pink. if you just finger it it sucks it in. the womans also enjoys the invading object stuck inside her soft warm interior and it gives them a lot of pleasure. if a female is hesitant then just massage the anus area and perinum for a few minutes and then apply a little pressure on the anus. the finger wont go in bcos its not lubricated. but as you again and again apply pressure she will begin to anticipate it going in. the you can quitely take some saliva on you finger and apply pressure. this time it will go in slowly and she will love it.as for the shit. just make sure the woman has done her poop not more than 3 hours ago. the lesser time that has passed sinse her poop the more likely that the finger or penis will smell bad. even more delay can cause the matter to come out. no problems after 30 mins or so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): iguess you could try doing it right after you have a bowel movement? also, try laying flat on your stomach and see if that helps keep things under control when ya'll do anal.. OR even try missionary position,just, in the butt.good luck, and dont listen to these anal haters! LOL
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reader, Angel_Eyes6946 +, writes (19 December 2007):
 wow...yeah, anal sex is just unsanitary, inhumane, and i reallllllllllly don't think mr. almighty wanted his peeps to do each other in the butt. I think since gay people had no other choice BUT to do that, it just got popular for some lame reason. and whats that about becoming loose???? shoot...but ANYWAYSS, use beeno or something =]
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reader, amy88 +, writes (19 December 2007):
amy88 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Theres enough infection causing bacteria on most bodily fluids including from the ass or pussy.
I think if my boyfriend cared enough about catching diseases from any of our sex life than we prolly be really boring and use condoms for the rest of our lives lol
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (19 December 2007):
 "Why not just get a bag and poop into it, then have him mastubate into the bag,now that would be something to see. Bet he wouldn't do that,so why in your Butt?"
Hahahahaha oh my gosh! I HAVE to say this is hilarious! GOt my vote for the funniest post on here yet :)
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reader, amy88 +, writes (19 December 2007):
amy88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioncan't see myself doing enemas...
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reader, amy88 +, writes (19 December 2007):
amy88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's not like we are setting out to do this! Youre probably really boring if all you think im going to do is missionary, and I do enjoy the feeling or like that he is getting off on it, so i'm probably not just going to stop trying to do it he doesnt last very long anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): Why not just get a bag and poop into it, then have him mastubate into the bag,now that would be something to see. Bet he wouldn't do that,so why in your Butt?
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reader, amy88 +, writes (17 December 2007):
amy88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionugghh well its not exactly that easy for me to just say to my bf I dont want to do it anymore!? he only makes me do it every second or third night so its not like i am doing this every night. I asked him why he wants it as much as normal sex he said it was because my ass is boney skinny and he its a clear view or something guess it is a male thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): I'm sorry to ask this but why are you bothering if it causes this many problems. Your vagina was built for pleasure...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): Yeah, have a nice big dump before you have anal sex to empty your bowels out or of course tell him to get over his anal obsession. Either he loves you or he loves bottom sex.
Buy a strap on and tell him that you are going to do it to him and see how he likes it.
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