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writes:I have a boyfriend in 8th garde and I am in 7th grade. We really like each other and we have been going out for 5 months, but we have not kissed. WE were watching tv and when he had to leave I asked him to stay for 2 mintues. I just don't know if I should approach him. What if he doesn't want to? I don't want him to feel that I am rushing. I really want to kiss him. I just don't know how to approach. ANy advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (2 December 2007):
When I was your age I was in a very familiar situation. When I was 16, I had a bf and after 6 months of dating we still hadnt kissed. I started to think all terrible things like maybe he doesnt like me enough and so on. But it turns out he was just to shy to kiss me and I was too shy to kiss him too. We both had doubts about what the other person wanted, when in fact be both wanted the same thing.
My advice to you is:
Next time you say goodbye to him, hug him and kiss him on the cheek. This is less scary then going in for the 'big kiss'. And it also gives him a hint that maybe you want to kiss him on the lips. So next time you see him he may kiss you, or he might even do it after you kiss him on the cheek. If the situation still hasnt progressed after a while you could ask him for a goodnight kiss. Just say when your saying goodbye 'can i have a goodnight kiss?' and smile at him and look at him in the eyes.
Hope this has helped :) And remember if he isnt ready to kiss, thats ok, dont take it too personally, and tell him that its ok.
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (2 December 2007):
 Well it seems to me maybe he doesnt want to rush things either or maybe he is kind of shy. Maybe you should take the lead on this. Approach him. Dont give him those rush kisses because you never know what he may be thinking. You should slowly go for his lips and if he stops you then he is not ready but if he goes with it them you've got the lead and see what goes from there. If he tells you he isnt ready, try to understand him. Take time to listen to what he has to say about the issue. Good luck!
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