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writes: My husband amd me have been fighting a lot mainly about money. We just had huge fight about who's paying the bills. It got so bad he yelled I want a diorvce. I got so upset I went to stay at a hotel (I didnt tell him where im staying at.) Hes been leaving massages saying hes sorry and me to come home. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy husband found me (dont ask.) He gave me flowers (blue roses my favorite), we told me how much he loves me and took me my favorite restaurant. We had the best sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): Call him and say you are prepared to come back on certain conditions and you are serious that if this subject becomes an issue again and he threatens you verbally that you will agree to a divorce - life is too short to argue about money. Money is about careful planning, living within your means and agreeing what the important things are for you as a couple. It can be an opportunity to bring you closer - particularly if, say, you have a joint goal for saving up some money each week towards. My boyfriend and I have decided to set up what we are calling a 'happiness account'. Sounds pretty cheesy I know but basically its just a joint account whereby we put a little bit aside in it each month and it goes towards things that will make us happy - which could be tickets to a concert, a short break or a birthday treat. We both feel good about that money because it is ours and neither of us argue about who owns it or pays for things etc. Perhaps try and find a way forward with a common ground approach. There may be other ways for you to generate income - ebay? additional part time or temporary work? Sit down with paper and pen when things are calm - but make up with each other first.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 Sounds like you're living like flat mates? What ever happened to joint bank accounts? Doesn't anyone do that anymore? maybe i'm a bit behind with the times, i'm aware that might be the case, its been some yrs since I lived with anyone but the kids.
Money is a nightmare for everyone at the moment, cant you pull together until its all sorted in the world? People need to be a team at the moment.
He sounds like he wants to sort it out, why not chat?
Running away and spending on hotels is just going to make things worse surely?
C xxxx
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