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writes:Recently my b/f went away on business. The night he left, he promised to call when he arrived at his first destination. He knows that I am always unable to sleep until I know he's there in one piece. He never called. I laid awake until 1:30 AM but I knew he had to get up at 5:00 AM the next day, so I didn't want to call him that late. The next day I didn't hear from him until late in the evening. He had arrived just fine around 11:00 PM and I was a little put out but I didn't make a big deal out of it. Then it was two days before he called again. Which is unusual for him because when he's out of town on assigments, he always finds time to call me every day, sometimes twice a day (his choice, not mine). When he did finally call, he said he would be coming home the following day and he would call me to let me know when he was leaving. All day the phone never rang and I didn't want to be clingy and call him, so I just stayed busy to keep my mind off of it. By 10:00 PM I realized I was never going to sleep until I knew what was going on. So I called him. By now I was upset. He said his plans had changed, and he wouldn't be coming home until the next day. Which is fine, I understand plans can change, but call me, don't friggin' leave me hanging! That is so rude.Is that too much to ask? To me, it's just common courtesy. It probably wouldn't have been such a sore spot, but lately it feels like he's just taking me for granted and getting lazy about doing the right thin in our relationship and it causes me to feel unimportant to him. And I feel like if I just look overlook it, pretty soon he'll be walking all over me. But when I ask him if he wants some space, or if we need to take a break from our relationship for awhile, he says no and gets all freaked out at the thought that I might move out. So I make excuses for him; he's busy, he's overworked, but I'm starting to think he's just disresepctful. I can't believe he didn't even think to factor me into the equation when things got changed. He just left me hanging. So the next day when he started traveling home, I wouldn't answer my phone. He called me about 10 times and I just ignored him. I hate playing games but he seems to be unaware of what if feels like to be in my shoes and I think it's time he gets a taste of what it's like to feel unimportant and disregarded. Am I over-reacting?......
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Well, my dear anonymous, with this new information, I have to agree with you: he should have called.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Danielpew, but he was driving his own car, stayed at a comfy hotel in a big city and had his cell phone charged up and with him. Mine was charged and by the bed all night. I know there are exceptions. This wasn't one of them. Men always like to chalk up all our problems up to insecurity. That way they don't have to take any responsibility for being insensitive. I probably didn't give you enough information. Thanks anyhow.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 So you gave him a taste of his own medicine and i don't blame you.
I would have expected a call as well just to know that he was safe, and you managed to get hold of him so there was no reason why he could not get hold of you.
With a bit of luck he realises now how it made you feel and he will take that into consideration for next time.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (9 July 2007):
I'm afraid you might. Sometimes calling is not as easy as it seems. I had to stay one night in an airport, on my way home, and I simply found no way to let my family know.
Maybe you are insecure about him and he's resenting that. But I wouldn't worry so much about this problem.
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