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writes: I hope this is the right place to put this post.My fiance broke up with me 2 weeks ago. Well sort of....She told me 2 weeks ago that she needed a break for now.She said that she just wanted to be friends for now.She is a divorced mother of 2 and says that life is just too busy and she does not want to be "romantically" involved with anyone right now.After that nothing. No calls. No nothing.We have been together for over 2 years. We are supposed to be planning a wedding for the fall. But now this. I'm a complete mess. I geuss that I should mention that I am 43 and she is 33. I am a single dad that has raised his kids by himself so I fully understand being busy. What I don't understand is this. Up until 2 weeks ago she called me several times a day and always, always told me that she loved me and I always, always told her that I loved her. I still do.Her mother got involved. (They are both bipolar.) She talked to me and told me that she didn't understand her daughter but they had always had problems with her.I told her that I loved her daughter and was in alot of pain right now. She told her daughter all sorts of things that I did not say so now she is pissed at me for something I didn't do. She told me yesterday that she wanted to be friends for now and that she would call me when she was ready to see if we can work this out. Now, I do know that Friday night she had a guy over. She told her mom that it was just a friend from High School and he brought his kid over to watch movies with her kids. Yeah right.My problem is that I can't get her out of my mind. Sometimes I think I am loosing it. I know that distance and time will make it better. How do I handle her when she calls back and wants to talk. She will call. It's just her style. I just am not going to sit her waiting for her to call. Can't do it. Too painful.It would be nice it if worked out but after this I don't think it will. So, what would be the best thing to tell her when she calls?
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reader, lostgirl04  +, writes (2 May 2006):
 Well it sounds like you've made up your mind about her. You should tell her exactly how you feel. That she hurt you and that you're not going to sit around waiting for her to make a decision. She may have cold feet but you know what you want and you don't need some1 who is not sure about their relationships. It seems her mother is a nosy-body and that this is her fault in some ways but your ex/gf is the one who makes the decisions not her mom. Tell her that. Tell her that if she wants to believe her mom and her mom's lies it's her problem. I'm sorry you're going through this. Maybe she comes to her senses and you guys can work things out. If not I'm sure there is some1 out there who will appreciate you. Good luck! =)
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