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writes:Pls i need to share this with you, i have dated a girl for 5years and i'm planning to marry her but she is too poor on bed, so i'm confused b/cos i want a very active person. Pls reply it's urgent Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): Are you entirely sure it's just her who's 'poor in bed?' Like, you're completely amazing and she's just not responding?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): it doesn't matter about her being good in bed or not to be fair? it really matters if you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, if it's a big problem that she is bad in bed, well it's up to you if you want to stay wih her, but then again 5 years along time to be saying that now.
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reader, Desagecally +, writes (26 December 2010):
Desagecally is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thank those who 've helped in answering my question. But to make the question clear., i've being with dis girl 4rm my year 1-5 final year.so i got her disvirgined in 4th year, now we ve graduate i want 2 marry her b/cos i love her and my parents & siblings like her too, but d problem is dat she can't add more glammour to it(being creative sexually).
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (26 December 2010):
 Bad idea to get married to someone you are not sexually compatible with. But when you say she's poor in bed, does that mean she doesn't know what to do, or is not willing to do it? (big difference, btw). She may just need some "coaching" but if she's not willing, well you can't fix that!
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reader, AlinaCoop  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 you know your girl...she is "poor in bed"..are you able to teach her?? are you in love enough to be patient and let her know about all that stuff..?
think about it..don't get married with her if you won't be able to teach and build the relationship together...
don't get married with her just because your guys are 5 years together..that doesn't make sense..
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (25 December 2010):
Teach her how you would like her to perform in bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): And how do you imagine girls get to become 'good in bed', which from your point of view possibly means gives you excellent pleasure?
Easy to answer this one.
It is a good male lover who slowly gets a girl to a stage that both she and him derive mutual pleasure from and to each other.
That is your job as the man.
Impatience and any form of selfishness on your part will not help.
Girls who are willing to wait until they are over 18 will thus also probably enjoy a first lover who is over 19-21. By which time a very lucky girl will meet a man who is generous and willing to slowly teach the girl all that he has learned. Because previously he has been trying out and experimenting with the younger naive girls when he was the same.
But knowing little then he has not been able to teach much, because back then he was still learning.
So the experienced man will take it slowly, introduce the girl to things that will not be sex, but will be kissing techniques, stroking outside etc.
In fact everything outside at this stage.
Talking supportively and kindly.
There is no hurry. The silly boys who go straight to sex miss out on enriching the experience of slowly teaching the girl things that will bring her to a high state of arousal, without intercourse, yet. So week by week the girl willl learn new techniques from her teacher/lover, who is patient.
A really good lover/teacher may be able to prolong all the learning techniques for months and months before he starts teaching her more about all the sexual techniques and positions when full intercourse occurs. And that too will take more time.
And all the time treating her with tender considerate kindness and respect.
Men who fail to learn all this above, condemn their women to unsatisfying inadequate sex.
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