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writes:I need you guys to read over this and tell me what you think because I'm not sure: I met this beautiful girl a couple of months ago. She is literally model gorgeous and then I mean like a victoria's secret angel, not a stick. Anyway, we got talking and really clicked. She's kinda unique in her own way, having hobbies like doing martial arts and shooting bow and arrow and she is really good at them. At the same time, she's really funny and optimistic and always wants to help out. Anyway, to make a long story short we got closer and closer and I asked her out. We went on dates, kissed every time but whenever I tried for more, she pushed me away. I'm not the best looking guy out there and she gets loads of attention from other dudes, so I thought that maybe I wasn't good enough for her. Then last week she told me that the reason she held me off is because she is a virgin and kinda nervous about her first time.So I asked about previous boyfriends, and she confessed that I would be her first official boyfriend. Now, most people I know already had sex in their teen years. Same goes for me and even for those you might not call attractive. This girl is 24. And I know it sounds cynical, but when something sounds too good to be true, it usually is, right? Why would a drop dead gorgeous, intelligent, funny, loving and non religious girl wait so long for love? I want to believe it's perfectly normal, but I just can't wrap my head around it. She told me she was bullied a lot in the past (not in a mopey way, but she said it more matter-of-factly, like it didn't matter) so could that have something to do with it?Just trying to gain some insight.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Very cynical. She sounds like a perfect package. If you like each other and hit it off well, what's wrong with that? Bullying can be debilating to a person's self-esteem, and that can have led to her having a tough time getting close to people. If she's giving you that chance, take it and be grateful for it.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 Why so hard to believe? My best guy friend is stunning! Dark hair, dark blue eyes, 6'3 with rock hard abs and a great smile. He's very kind, rides/takes care of horses, plays 6 instruments and does a Brazillian martial art. He's a virgin at 26. As kids we both had a hard time at school and he got beat up for being too smart, too gentle and thin. He's waiting for Ms Right. But women are sometimes intimidated by him or seek to get in his bed too quickly. Sometimes, he forgets his confidence...after-effects of bullying last a long time, believe me. Respect this woman and her decisions. Beauty doesn't mean a person can't be a little broken or a virgin or a kind person. Being beautiful doesn't mean she'll pick a man based on his looks alone. Maybe what she's done isn't normal, but it's lovely in my opinion and makes her that much more valuable in my eyes. Stop overthinking, take things as they come day by day and you'll see how much you'll feel.
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reader, shawncaff +, writes (25 December 2010):
 I have to say that I think this is too good to be true. I am sorry to be so cynical. But if she is not religious and is that good-looking, it would have taken almost a superhuman effort to resist all those advances between, say, 16 or 17 until 24.
But the more pressing question is whether she is being sincere in her affection for you. It's quite hard to be dating a "supermodel"--you need to feel very secure in yourself since you are always being challenged by others wanting to be with your girl. Are you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): Frankly, from the sounds of it you're not the one she has been waiting for. Power to her that she perhaps has focused on learning skills instead of getting involved in teen sex when most teens are clueless.
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (25 December 2010):
 Well I would believe it and it seems to me that you won the lottery so don't be afraid to cash the ticket in. Good luck
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