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writes:hi, I'm 17, been with my boyfriend for about a year an 3 months now. The other day we talked about how we felt about each other. We both said we really care about each other. We both said we hate the thought of each other being really sad and really want each other to be happy but the thing is we are both not actually in love with each other.Is this a problem an should we be worried that we are still not in love after being together for a year? Reply to this Question
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reader, Skeez +, writes (9 March 2008):
 No I dont think this is a problem. My boyfriend told me he has never been in love with me and we have almost been going out for 20 months.Theres a big difference between loving someone and being inlove with them. Loving someone is that you care for them and you enjoy your time with them. When your in love with someone, I guess thats when you have the feelings that you want to be with them forever and are willing to change everything just to be with them allways..you know Marriage, Kids and a house.. If you two are happy with what you have got, then youll be a fool to throw it all away. Im 17 too, so I think im in the best position to relate to what your going through. At first you may question the relationship thinking 'if he isnt in love with me then theres no hope' and ect. well there is. Enjoy each others company for now and maybe if your still together in a few years your feelings will change.Dont throw away a good relationship doll
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): hi i posted this question. oh im so upset u have just said that LJOO1 :( is there no more time for us to fall inlove or something? why wouldnt we work out? can we not grow to love eachother?
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reader, --Nicki-- +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Love is a strong word to say to someone and is something that takes time to build whether it has been years or not. I would not worry hun, it is not a problem that you don’t love each other. You are only 17 years old and that is young to be in love. As long as you two are happy and care for each other that is the only thing that matters. You still have lots of time to build up to saying your in love with each other!
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reader, babiimegz +, writes (9 March 2008):
well its not a problem in a sense but to be with someone yyou shoudl really be in love with them and fancy them. there are other people out there that you will fallin love with and who will also be in love with you ad you need that. it sounds more like a great strong friendship but its not really a good realtionship, why not make a mutual agreement to just be friends and find someone out there who will fall in love with you and you fall in love with. you deserve that as does your current partner
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): i would say it is a problem if your not in love with each other because that probaly means that you dont belong together.If you are both happy though then dont worry
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Yes, this is a problem.. To properly be with someone, you need to love them and fancy them, so in the long times you guys couldnt really work out, it seems.. You seriously need to reconsider your relationship together, because if you're not in love.. Well, maybe its time you move on and find someone you're desperately in love with. In the long run, you would probably both end up a lot happier :] all the best.
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