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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, thanks in advance for your help. I've not been single for very long so I'm needing a little bit of help working out what I should do here.So I went on a first date last Saturday and I thought it went well. We both seemed a bit nervous but nothing too bad. So on the date he suggested we stay for a second drink (despite the fact he was working the following day) then he walked me back to the taxi rank so I could get home. However he didn't try to kiss me or suggest another date, he just said it was nice to meet me and told me to text him when I got home so he knew I'd got back ok. That made me think maybe I'd misjudged and he wasn't that interested, but decided I only live once so when I sent my text I told him to let me know if he wants to do it again and he said 'I definitely will'. Again no suggestion so I'm thinking my initial instinct was right but he's still texting me now and seems to be keen to keep the convo going (asking questions etc) yet still no mention of a second date. He takes ages to reply, sometimes a full day, yet he's done that since we first started talking and he is doing his masters so I know he's busy.Do you think my initial instincts are right here? Or should I wait a bit longer? I'm torn between just stopping texting him since he's not giving me an overly interested vibe and waiting to see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2016): I f you keep texting first you'll never give him a chance to be the first to initiate contact or to face the fact that he's not interested.
He may be enjoying your attention without really wanting to go on a second date.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 February 2016):
 I don't think you should give up to soon. He may not have wanted to kiss you on a first date or make things awkward. He is still texting you, and as you said yourself he is busy at the moment. You don't seem to have anything to lose by keeping up this conversation. Just see where it goes, and try not to expect to much to soon.
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (12 February 2016):
I would suggest to wait it out... Take some time..
And don't overthink it :)
Good luck
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