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*elschatbox
writes:How do you know when you're ready for divorce? Bubble, Bubble, Toil and trouble...yep, that's my marriage right now. We're totally drifting apart and I don't see us connecting on some major issues. I want him to work close to home, he wants to work in another state (and he does), I wanted children before I was 35, (he wants them in about 2 years), I'll be 37, I want a husband that goes to a job everyday and comes home every night,( he wants to work a 7/7 schedule)...the list just goes on and on...soooo how do you know when enough's enough? THANKS.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (19 January 2007):
 I think he pretty much spelled it out to you. . . his career is more important than making you happy.
I've said this before and I'll say it again. Nobody on their death bed ever said "I wish I had spent more time at work." Unfortunately, too many people don't realize the importance of a happy family over career advancement until it's too late.
Hopefully, he'll wise up.
Good luck!
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reader, melschatbox +, writes (19 January 2007):
melschatbox is verified as being by the original poster of the question Truly, I have been trying. It's been over a year that he's not been consistently sleeping in the same bed at night with me. I have asked him point blank "IF after graduation he ever planned on coming back home and living here again?" His response..I don't think so. He feels after his schooling...why leave the state that pays him the most for his nursing job just to come back home to our home state that would pay him so much less. And, Yes I am in counseling.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 You know enough is enough when you've talked and talked and both compromised a little. I don't mean to offend you but it sounds like both you and your husband have your separate lives marked out and don't really care what the other person's plans are. Compromise. Tell him you'll wait on the baby front if he gets a job in your state with a schedule. Or try marriage guidance but try everything before you get divorced. Right now it just sounds like you're willing to give up without a fight.
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