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*winkle1million
writes:I've always had this weird feeling about my teacher in a bad way. I cannot describe it but he does stuff. Like looks at me for to long and when I turn to look back he turns away. And whenever we r discussing something in class he always sits on the table in front of me with his legs spread out. He also befriended me on myspace. This was last year but he still stars at me while talking to another male teacher who also stairs at me at that same moment. Then one day the other male teacher did something. I was wearing a very low cut blouse and u was sitting on the ground talking to some friends when he walks over next to me and kneels with one leg on a chair looking at my cleevage. Then walks away later I just tried to forget it. But I can't can someone tell me wits going on! Do they like me or are they flirting wut should I do I don't know wits happening help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2010): Well, “soon567”, I was minded not to reply to your attack on me.However, your most recent reply is full of errors, the principal one being your self-determined definition of paedophilia.You really should not use the term so inappropriately, since it means a sexual interest in pre-pubescent children, which is illegal and not the case here.You should be talking about hebephilia, which is the sexual interest in post-pubescent children, which is possibly not illegal, depending on State or Country, however morally wrong one might consider it, or ephebophilia, which applies to near-adults.In the case of this young lady and in the light of her most recent post, I believe that she has indeed been the subject of unwanted attention and should not have to tolerate it. Please, young lady, record all that you know in regard to his actions towards you and other girls within his ambit and report to a senior and trustworthy member of staff, and allow the system to take appropriate action, in the first instance.If you are still not satisfied, inform your parents and the Police.
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reader, twinkle1million +, writes (1 January 2010):
twinkle1million is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone fer helpin me out I'm gonna confront him
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reader, twinkle1million +, writes (31 December 2009):
twinkle1million is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just found out that coach has been seeing my friend t and talking and joking with her ands he even touched himself while laughing to a joke. She said that he's like a second father to her and they sit very close practically everyday at school and he also sits on the table in front of her like he did to me me and t r not great friends but I want to help her I don't think she knows wut is goin on either now wut do I do how do I help her
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): I understand you are scared, and I'm so sorry you are having to cope with this. But I think that the more you keep this to yourself, the more scary it will seem. Although the idea of telling someone is scary, you will most likely feel loads better for sharing it, and just knowing that someone else is aware of the situation will be comforting.
Even though these teachers seem popular, there could be many more young people just like you, who feel the same and are uncomfortable with these teachers. What makes you so sure everybody else likes them so much? Maybe they are also too scared to speak up about them.
I still think they are being extremely inappropriate. Hugging students is not okay, no matter how they mean it. When I was younger and at school, there was a male teacher who I found really creepy. He would wink at me, watch me, and always treated the female students differently. He used to try and hug the girls, things like that. He was also aggressive to the male students. But everybody else seemed to love him, so I kept quiet. Eventually though, he did get into trouble for something he did, and to this day I shudder when I think of him.
I'm not trying to force you to tell anyone. If you don't want to, that is your choice. But I just don't see how the situation will change for you unless you do something differently. These men aren't necessarily trying to hurt anyone. But they are making you feel uncomfortable. If you told someone, they might simply be told to change their behaviour a little. Nothing terrible is likely to happen. And your name doesn't even have to be mentioned. Nobody else needs to know you said anything. But it really is up to you though, and if you don't want to say anything, that is okay. Just make sure you are careful around those teachers though. x
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reader, jadeyyx3 +, writes (30 December 2009):
 you dont know if he is a pedophile or not but he makes you feel uncomfortable, and that is enough. maybe dont be too drastic by going to the poloice if your not sure about his actions, but tell someone. obviously your friends are to immature to see your bothered by it. if you think your parents might overreact, maybe go to a female teacher you trust. just try and talk to her after class or school. something simple: "hey ms______ ,can i talk to you about something in confidence?" then explain. they'll help you and if that doesnt work, try your parents.
ps: him adding you on myspace last year is just plane creepy! "hint" he could get into a lot of trouble if someone annonomously showed the principle his friends list of students. "hint"
just be careful!
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reader, twinkle1million +, writes (30 December 2009):
twinkle1million is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think he is a pedophile no w cus he has all of the characteristics of won wit do I do I'm scared
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reader, twinkle1million +, writes (29 December 2009):
twinkle1million is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf I told on them everybody would hate me t school cus there loved teachers and I don't want that to happen cus school is the only thing I like In my life I hate my life
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reader, twinkle1million +, writes (29 December 2009):
twinkle1million is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst of all they r coaches and and both married and one with a kid in the way everybody thinks the other teacher coach w is hot and has a crush on them and I have told my friends but they believe nothing wrong and plus one cach coach h hugs a lot of his students he teaches avid and really trust to get to interfere in your life he says he just wants to help once I told him I wanted to quit his class he asked me if I wanted to skip class and talk to him alone twice but I told him no cus I wus afraid andbim way to scared to tell an adult I'm 14
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): These teachers are behaving in an inappropriate way. You are right to feel uncomfortable. I strongly suggest that you tell someone what is going on. Don't worry about how it will sound, just tell someone! Your parents, or a teacher you trust. Tell them what you have said here. If people are aware, they will be able to keep an eye on the situation. These teachers are most likely the same with other female students, not just you, so try not to take it too personally. But I do understand how scary and creepy this must be.
If at all possible, try and avoid being around these teachers, especially if you are alone. Tell your friends, and try to stay with them if you can. If you bump into those teachers somewhere, walk away. And if they start doing something you don't like, such as staring or sitting too close, again, walk away. Or tell them to stop. But don't let this go on. They may be teachers. They may be authority figyres. But what they are doing is WRONG. So stand up, take some power over the situation, and tell someone. Don't let this carry on. Good luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): Perverted, "soon567"? Men are wired to look and the questioner had the choice NOT to wear a low-cut, revealing blouse - especially if there was a lot to display.
Tell me what male wouldn't look? It doesn't mean we have rape in mind simply because we are following our programming.
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