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writes: My boyfriend (of about a year) and I moved in together, we have a great relationship, we're starting a business together and we're pretty much happy. There's just one thing that nags at me - and that's his friend's wife. He and her flirt back and forth all the time, she initiates a lot of it and he flirts back. I've told him that it bothers me and asked him if he has ever had feelings for her and he says "No way - she's just a sweetheart, and even if you and I weren't together nothing would EVER happen because she's my buddy's wife". Is this a common insecurity or am I over-reacting? I've tried talking to him, but I know that my insecurities bother him - how should I approach the subject without sounding so insecure?
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (2 December 2005):
 I think it is a question of respect... they are both direspecting you by their behaviour and you should not put up with it. You must remain calm when discussing this with your boyfriend, and show him it is not a matter of you being jealous and insecure, but a matter of him showing you the respect that you deserve and expect from him.Ask him how he would feel if you flifted blatantly in front of him with another guy? would that be acceptable to him? we teach people how to treat us... dont teach him to carry on treating you this way, and have a word with your boyfriends buddy as well, telling him to put a leash on his girlfriend. Good Luck, take care of yourself.
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