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writes:I've been going out with my gf for nearly 5 1/2 years, and all of a sudden last week she said 'things' were bothering her and needed to chat.She told me some 'home truths' and I know i need to change these things...and will NOW and in fact have done already.Instead of letting me sort the problems, she says she needs some space...What do I do? Its been 10 days already, we're still texting but she simply will not see me...she set a date in 2 weeks time (over 3 weeks apart) to 'maybe' see each other again but i'm not sure i can cope.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): ty this helped me i have the same problem as this guy has but not as bad and i no she still loves me but needs her space so im just going to wait untill shes ready to see me and yeh i might organize a date or somthing to enjoy our selfs
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2005): You have to cope and you will if you want to try again. I would wait and leave her alone. It's a risk because you may lose her but if that happens, there's not much you can do. You move forward. It's obvious that something that has occurred between you two has been weighing heavily on her mind and she needs time and space to recover and think about it. Perhaps she is trying to get you to re-evaluate your past behaviours, so they will not sabotage your relationship, in the future. Try to remember, that one builds character and gains strength by responding positively and proactively to tough life situations one faces. Try to stay positive and immerse yourself in other interests to keep your mind off what she's doing. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2005): You have to tell us what her complaints are if we are going to help. What are "these things"? Even if you have already fixed them, it takes time for women to sort through their emotions and forgive. We need to know the "whys" behind behavior. Is she sure you have changed and that you will not go back to old habits? If you really love her, you can wait a couple of weeks - trust her and trust your love - it will be hard, but if you are going to be together for a lifetime, a couple of weeks is nothing. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2005): It may seem like you can't cope now, but you can. She needs her space. That doesn't mean that you two have to stop caring about eachother. Use this time to your advantage. Take a look at yourself and figure out what you want for your future, spend time doing something that you haven't done in a while (catch up with friends, have a hobby etc. etc.). Perhaps you'll find that you needed space too. After a couple of weeks, you can test the waters...call her and ask her out to eat or something. You will then be able to talk to her about some of the things you did while you had your space (other than thinking about her). She'll probably have some stories of her own, and you two can enjoy eachother's company and make plans for your future together (or at least another future date). Good Luck!
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