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writes: I'm a 16 year old male, and me and my best friend (15 girl) have started getting closer, and she has been hinting at a relationship.First, you have to understand that we were "talking" once before, but it didn't go anywhere, and it was kind of awkward for a week or two but we ended up being even better friends, and she is a very forgiving person.Second, if we do get together, but break up, will our friendship suffer, despite her forgiving nature? I wouldn't trade her friendship for the world but I want something more... what can I do?
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (19 August 2005):
 The best types of relationships are based on the foundation of frienships. I have the experience of being friends, making the next step to relationship..it lasting 4 years and breaking up...and we are still best friends. If you have feelings for this girl don't let fear prevent your from possibly experiencing the most beautiful relationship in your life. Fear is life's only limitation....don't let it prevent you from being happy. Let nature take its course and if it goes the way of a relationship...embrace it with the knowledge that it can be as beautiful as you want it to be. Just let it be...ana
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reader, Mr No-nonsense +, writes (19 August 2005):
I think you need to have a really good chat to this girl and voice your concern's openly. You may find she feel's exactly the same way. Often the best relationships in life start out as friendship and grow into something more special. Lifes a gamble, sometimes its worth taking a risk.
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reader, Emmy +, writes (19 August 2005):
There is only one thing you can do....if she is the person you want to be with then you have to take a chance and tell her. There is always a chance that you will break up and your friendship will be lost but if you dont do anything you may always be wonder "what if...?" Its up to you in the end. Friendship is a great thing to have with a person especially if its strong, but if the connection you have could rise to a higher level then all the better. Follow your heart and do what feels right, then whatever is suposed to happen will. Good luck. Good love. :)
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reader, amiee  +, writes (19 August 2005):
 heya hunni,
i know exactly how you feel, im in your exact position. thing is if she is as much as a friend as you say she is then if you do split up you should still remain friends in some cases it could make you tighter.
to be honest why dont you take a chance. as you said shes been hinting at a relationship and you too are obviosly considering it. at the end of the day most great relationships start out as being good friends.
like i said im in your position well the girls position in this situation and if i was her i think id want you to take a chance on me. but at the end of the day it is up to you.
but remember if you and her are ad close as you say then whatever happens shell stay friends with you.
good luck
i know things will work out and will most probably end up better than before.
amiee XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2005): what you should do is every day do something more boyfriend and girlfriend like.hold her hand,put your arm over her shoulder that kind of suff it worked for em and hopefully it will work for you!
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