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writes:hi well this is kinda complicated, i've been speaking to this guy for just over 2 years and he recently told me he had feelings for me. we have never met and have been speaking everynight for the last two years the problem is i dont know how i feel about him. i do like him deep down but im just a bit confused on how i feel i've never had a boyfriend and when he gives me compliments i dont know what to say nd i dont know if he feels hurt by me not saying nethng. we are arranging to meet in the summer as friends but im worried it will be a disaster and ruin our friendhip. he means the world to me but i dnt know if its just a friendship or if its nethng else and it hurting me cos i dnt know how i feel. plz help
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reader, jojomarissa  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 you've got to be honest to yourself about how you really feel for him. i met my husband online as friends. we talked almost every night and soon became best friends, ive never trusted anyone the way i do him and have even left my country (australia)and all my friends and family so we could be together. he would have done the same but is in the navy and cant leave the country since he is stationed there. he traveled all the way from the US to meet me and spend time with my family and then flew me over to meet his family, proudly introducing me as his girl and proposed soon after.
the only thing that worries me is that you say youve never had a boyfriend before...hmmm both my husband and i had both been engaged before and had relationship experience and knew exactly what we both wanted in a relationship.
id say to take it slow and meet as friends and see how you go from there. Good luck sweetie!
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 You just need to be open and sincere about how you feel/don't feel towards him. You can not change what he feels or what you feel so the friendship might be at risk but this is not your fault.
Meet him and see how it goes... if you don't feel a romantic connection, you need to tell him this. Also, allow time after meeting so it sinks in both of you as a lot will change from the telephone/Internet relationship you have now. Maybe you don't like his actions or he doesn't like yours... so there is a long way to go before either of you can really know if there is something other than friendship there. Until now is more of an illusion of someone for both of you.
Hope this helps. Good luck!
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