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writes:I'm going through a divorce right now and I'm just confused by what my ex does.It was her decision for the divorce and all that, which leaves me more stunned by herTime and time again she makes her default picture on her myspace,facebook etc.pictures from our wedding..Mainly solo pictures gettin dressed in her wedding dress,make up being put on clearly showing she is the bride or with her bridemaids which my sister was apart of.So can you understand my confusion? How do you react to that? The person who wants the divorce still proudly flaunting these pictures.I understand that they are great memories and you shouldn't let them go..pictures from partys etc with us.ok that's cool.But wedding pictures? Am I the only one who finds this strange?I need help to better translate the meaning behind this.What's ur opinion? Am i looking too deep into this..subconciously looking for a sign?Oh..and for the first time in damn near 3 years, a couple weeks ago out of the blue, she sends me a happy bday text.Now I could understand if she's playing nice thru this whole divorce thing..keep it civil and whatnot.To me though, it doesn't add up. It was a hard long road getting over this, things like this throw it into a spiral.So I would very much appreciate any and all thoughts..even you think I should just man up and shut up.haha.I'm cool with it.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): Got cha..thank you for the thoughts. It is a hard thing to understand especially while letting go.Bottom line is..she's in love with the idea of marriage,but not the man she married.Atleast now things are getting easier to accept and let go of.Thanks again.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 August 2009):
 Because she looked absolute gorgeous at her wedding? Felt adored, special, loved, wanted.. I think she is trying to recapture those feelings.
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reader, Perspicacious  +, writes (24 August 2009):
This does seem slightly odd, but you could be looking to deeply into this. I can think of several reasons why she might chose to use these pictures that don't involve you.
For example:
Perhaps she thinks those pictures of her are from the moment in time when she looked her best?
Perhaps they represent to her a time when she was happy, even though things didn't turn out the way she had hoped?
Perhaps she is using them to put off sexual predators that sadly do bother women from time to time on the internet?
The fact the pictures she uses are just of her so basically saying "I got married" and not "I got married to this guy here" is possibly significant.
Of course, it could be a sign that she isn't quite over you yet too.
You could ask her why she keeps using these pictures and there's no harm in that. But fundamentally, I would say you need to concentrate on letting go yourself and moving forward in your life rather than looking back.
Good luck!
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 August 2009):
 I don't think she's ready to let go. A part in her that wishes to remain married. What should you do? I'd ask her. Aparantely she's trying to send a message, who knows what that may be, but you won't know unless you ask you what this means. It doesn't seem as if she's trying to be malicious, or rubbing anything in. You'd know if her intentions were negatively based.
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