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writes: My boyfriend and I had sex one time and now I'm pregnant, but I don't know how to tell him because we are both in school. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): i fell pregnant when i was at school and it was really hard to tell my boyfriend because he was still at school but i just found the write time to tell him and everything was fine and he helped me tell my parents and he stuck by me and i wud tell him as soon as the write time comes
good luck!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Sweetheart, listen, tell him, if he really cares and loves you, he will stay and figure this problem out with you. Check with the doctors and find a way to get an education and raise a child. At your age, its probably going to be a hard road, but i think you can make it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): First of all Let me tell the person Under me that things happen i mean if they used a condom its a 95% chance that the female wouldn't get pregnant...and you have no right to tell someone what they should not be doing cause you could tell your children over and over again not to have sex and they end up doing it any way....I am 16 and 18 weeks pregnant right now and i didnt plan this....and my mom was SO MAD! but it snot her fault shes the greatest mom a kid could have, this was my mistake and imma tell you this THE SEX WAS THE SIN BUT A CHILD IS A BLESSING FROM GOD....Its funny how he could turn a bad thing in to a good one....
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): you should not have sex if you are both in school.you should always use things to keep you from getting pregnant.
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reader, 095sally  +, writes (13 July 2007):
hey gurls out there listen when i was only 13 i had my first
child and i know its hard but you got to be true with your man
yall might still be in school but its a huge responsability
but you did't make it on your own and your not going to just talk to him and after you talk to him talk to your folks they might be real angry but they'll be there for you i promise wen i first told my folks they were mad but they got over it but my mom still ask me why...why did you make this huge mistake but i can never answer her but i'm 14 now and i still struggle i'm a single parent raising a little boy on my own but just be true with him and your folks love you always new new
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2006): Hey there! Listen you need to be honest with him. Sit him down and say look we need to talk. Then tell him the truth, every girl goes through this so your not alone, and if he leaves you he's not a true man but one the other hand maybe he's just as scared as you are. Tell your parents together and show them that you are responsible to be parents even thou will may not think you are. Don't worry you will be okay.
Jamie Holt
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reader, sibaan +, writes (18 June 2006):
 you need to tell your boyfriend first and then both of you need to tell your parents and then his together. they will probably be angry but understanding and caring. you need to do this the right way....iv been where you are.... xxxsibaan
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (17 June 2006):
 I think perhaps you should tell your parents first, or at least your mum, you going to need all the support you can get right now. Not sure how old you are but your pretty young, so dealing with this on your own is too huge! Yes if you want to tell him go ahead, but if hes that young he may well not be interested. But only you know how he feels and if the two of you can get through this together. He is the father so has a right to know, but how he will handle this is hard to say! But you have at least got to tell your folks to able to get the help that you need at this time. IF you cant tell them, get along to the doctors, who can advise you on what route you want to take and offer counselling if needed. But you have to let someone know not just the bf. this is huge and shouldnt be taken lightly. You need to get as much help as you can right now.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2006): Well first of all did you tell your parents? Because you should... And your boyfriend should know because u didnt do this on your own. If he really loves you then he will stay by you :) Sure this can be a tough time, but you have to remember everything happens for a reason. Your boyfriend should realize that this is just as much his responsibility. You two can talk about how you are going to deal with this whole thing. I once thought I was pregnant and I told my boyfriend before I took the test. I just said I dont mean to scare you but im late.. He was a bit shaken up but told me if I was he would be a man and take care of it. You have to tell him there is no getting out of it, so just do it and get it over with. Maybe you will not get the response you are looking for but atleast you will have it out in the air. Good luck to you, I hope everything goes well for you. Tonnes of young parents are so happy they had their kids, it even helped straigten up some of my friends lives :)
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reader, Mickey_Powell +, writes (17 June 2006):
 Well first things first, you have to tell him... but make sure you are alone, and have no interruptions! Both parents need to know to so you will have all the love and support u need! U may not think it at this time, but there will be people out there who will care for you!
You have to tell him... it will be bad if u dont tell him! Something good might come out of it too! Because most guys that age, just like to have fun, and show off to all their mates on how many gals they can pull! But he may be happy with the news!!
Good Luck! XxX
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reader, Heavens7thstar +, writes (17 June 2006):
Here are other questions for you... How old are you? How long have you and your bf been together? Does your family know? are you 100% positive you are pregnant? Are you 2 commited to eachother?
What I would do is if you havn't been to the obgyn yet, tell him that you want him to go to the doctor with you. If he asks why, then just be blunt & say you MIGHT be pregnant. If he cares about you enough no matter how old you both are, He'll agree to go with you.
If you have been to the doctor & are 100% positive, then sit him down alone and say, "hey I need to talk to you about something very important." Tell him how much you care about him & how you might be scared & you want him to help you. Don't be pushy, and be as open to his opinion,suggestions,and choices. If he blows up at you after you tell him then dont argue or fight back. Just leave him alone a few days then write him a note or call him & tell him you understand how he feels. Him blowing up to you might just be him in shock. Put yourself in his shoes & ask him to do the same for you. You 2 might understand eachother. Mosy importantly tell someone else you are very close to in your family like an aunt would be great so that way you wont be scared to tell your parents by yourself if you already havn't. Good luck with everything. I wish you the very best & let me know what happens after you tell him!
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reader, Heavens7thstar +, writes (17 June 2006):
Here are other questions for you... How old are you? How long have you and your bf been together? Does your family know? are you 100% positive you are pregnant? Are you 2 commited to eachother?
What I would do is if you havn't been to the obgyn yet, tell him that you want him to go to the doctor with you. If he asks why, then just be blunt & say you MIGHT be pregnant. If he cares about you enough no matter how old you both are, He'll agree to go with you.
If you have been to the doctor & are 100% positive, then sit him down alone and say, "hey I need to talk to you about something very important." Tell him how much you care about him & how you might be scared & you want him to help you. Don't be pushy, and be as open to his opinion,suggestions,and choices. If he blows up at you after you tell him then dont argue or fight back. Just leave him alone a few days then write him a note or call him & tell him you understand how he feels. Him blowing up to you might just be him in shock. Put yourself in his shoes & ask him to do the same for you. You 2 might understand eachother. Mosy importantly tell someone else you are very close to in your family like an aunt would be great so that way you wont be scared to tell your parents by yourself if you already havn't. Good luck with everything. I wish you the very best & let me know what happens after you tell him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): I'm afraid that this is going to be a difficult one. It isn't really possible to predict how he will react. I've heard stories that go either way.
Another important point is that, at your age, you aren't really ready for sex. It might seem that way, but trust me, if it's not with the right person you'll just end up hurt. At the very least, if it is absolutely going to happen, then you have to at least use contraception. Sex can have far nastier consequences than pregnancy, STIs can be extremely dangerous.
I'm sorry that I can't give you a better answer than that, but it's going to be difficult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): it doesnt matter if you both are in schooll, he needs to know that u r pregnant because if hes the father, he has to be there for both you and that baby dont wait till your a couple months preg to tell him, tell him now so that u dont have to hold that burdun of not tellin him
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (16 June 2006):
 dear reader. honestly is the best policy my friend, but you are young so i hope you have told your parents and thought this through, do this first please for your sake, you need to find out how your going to deal with this on your own without the complications of having a young father to deal with.
all the best keep me posted please xxx
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