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writes:What should I do?I have a crush on a collegue who I have worked with for over 2 years. We have become good friends and sometimes there is chemistry which we both ignore as we are married.Last year he had a one night with another colleague of which he really regretted and confided in me. ofcourse I supported him and I have never let on that I really like him.HOWEVER - we went out with other colleagues last friday and we had a great time BUT i got very drunk and told him how I felt! He told me straight away that he would never hurt his family and that it was not going to happen. I agreed an shook hands with him and agreed that we be friends. He then asked what sex would be like with me and stated that in 10 years he has never been happy with his wife. I remember saying that sex would be magical but we would never know as we are friends.I am really confused and dont know how to take this forward. I work with him really well and often we are out on projects together. When we are not drunk we are great friends BUT i feel so stupid now.Do I apologise and promise him this would never happen again? I am so afraid to lose his friendship.
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reader, twinlab99  +, writes (20 June 2010):
 Don't do it. If either or both of you are uhappy in your marriage, get counseling or a divorce... Cheating or heavy flirting like that (which leads to cheating let's be honest) is so much more destructive not only to your lives but those around you. Let it go......
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): He is asking you to have sex without any strings attached.
It is your choice if you want to have sex with him or not.
if you can't get it out of your mind, then its better to do it and get it out of the system.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 June 2010):
Well if I were you, I'd be more afraid that this has the potential to ruin your marriage and that you'd end up used.
"I've never been happy with my wife" is male talk for "I'm happy generally, but will also happily use you as a bit on the side". What that means is that he probably has an idea about just using you then dumping you when it all goes wrong.
Say you're sorry, and that it will never happen again. Then get to work on your own marriage which clearly needs attention.
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