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writes:Well, i have been going out with this girl for a year and four months now and i can say that we're always at each other's throats. All we ever do is fight. It's really starting to get to me. As well as her. I want to know, how can we stop fighting. Stop all the disagreements and just be chill. I'm heading off to college in a few months and i don't want this stress on me. And her grandma is in the hospital right now so she doesn't need it either. It's like it's impossible to compromise. Something small always just gets to one of us and we start yelling at each other. Help.. please ? Reply to this Question
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reader, salvadda  +, writes (1 February 2009):
 I'm sorry the last sentence in my pervious answer to you should be....*shut up and kiss *ME* not *YOU*...very sorry
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reader, salvadda +, writes (31 January 2009):
There seems to be so much stress put on ppl these days. I will try to explain something. If this woman means so much to you plz try to let things so. Is who is right so inportant to you? There is a right way to argue. Stick to the subject, never call eachother names, or put one down, try to be open minded, don't bring pass issues up, and above all try to remember how u would like to be spoken to and use this. I'm not saying u don't have a right to speak ur opinion, it's all in how u say it. No need to push bottons. If it seems to be going no where, just tell her to shut up and kiss you
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 IT'S MUCH BETTER TO BITE ONE'S TOUNGE THAN TO STEP ON ONES' TOES! IT TRUELY DOESN'T MAKE YOU WEAK WHEN YOU TURN THE OTHER CHEEK, WALK AWAY FROM TROUBLE WHEN YOU CAN! LOVE CAN CREATE A BOND THAT WILL LAST THRU TIME...BUT IT ALL TAKES PRACTICE AND CARING. EVEN WHEN IT COMES NATURALLY , IT MAY STILL TAKE TIME TO ARRIVE!
First you should both act mature and CALL A TRUCE!
When daily stress gets to much to bear and the heavey load of life seems unbearable it's easy to loose sight of the good things that bring couples together. Stop thinking about yesterday, only reflect long enough to give yourself a chance to realize what you might miss if you loose one another.
The Proverbial saying is that the Grass is better on the other side of the hill....well trust me when I say that sometimes it turns out to be ARIFICIAL TURF!
Take some time to be alone...a little space from time to time will do you good. It's REFRESHING! Try not to worry too much about some things, when you are older you will see most of those things in a different light. Do little things for one another. Find the romance again. When you feel like you want to argue make a pact that you will be allowed to just walk out of the room for awhile and take a cooling down period. Give one another due RESPECT!
Spend me time...and quality together time...and time with other friends or family members. It helps to give you a new perspective and time to enjoy others company. Sometimes life becomes to same ole and too boring. You have to work at things and stop fighting, JUST STOP! It's not easy but its a CHOICE and it's one you MUST MAKE and STICK TO IT!
ASK GOD TO INTERVIENe AND THAT HIS WILL BE DONE.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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