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*yanjsmith
writes:Hello guys I'm in a bit of a dilemma here. I have met this girl at my local youth group and she's lovely and extremely beautiful and I found out she liked me and things went from there like flirting but not bf and gf then just recently I got caught in the wrong crowd and started smoking a bit of dope over my local park and my parents found out and took my phone away from me so I lost contact with this girl and now I have told her why I haven't spoken to her in a month and why I I was in trouble and couldn't text her I think that she thinks I'm a jerk and also I forgot her birthday which was today and I apologized like you do and she said don't worry but I feel like such a d*ck and that she wouldn't even deserve someone like me I need advice on what to do and say to her and also I know that it was my fault this all happened :(
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reader, ADHT24  +, writes (3 June 2011):
Dude, first of all you gotta quit smokin weed. Trust me it'll probably be hard, hell i need to quit. But yeah, quit and show her you quit. Second, you gotta get her something special. What is she into? Tell her ur really sorry about missin her B-day and the gift is to make it up to be. If you get the right thing, she'll know u care and listen, sumthin all females love is a guy who will listen. Oh, and drop the bad crowd u started hangin with.
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reader, ryanjsmith +, writes (2 June 2011):
ryanjsmith is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much guys especially serenity I have been chatting to her but she's always busy but things are going well thanks so much !!!
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (2 June 2011):
See if the girl is still interested by chatting to her, and if she seems interested, ask her if she wants to hang out. Show her when you're hanging out that you're a good guy, funny, easy to be with, boyfriend material. The mistakes you've made doesn't mean you've messed things up totally.
As for the weed, weed and learning do not mix. Doing well at school, getting on with your family, friends, developing a great relationship with a girl are all amazing things but all things that can be harmed when getting too involved with weed. If you're going to experiment with it, wait until you're a few years older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): "Dude" If you are under 15 and smoking pot, your first priority is getting clean, and changing the people you hang around with. Don't even try to date if you are planning on hanging with the pot smokers.
Of course you forgot her birthday. Plan on forgetting much more. GET CLEAN NOW. And stay out of the park.
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reader, Mickkiee +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Hey. More power to you for accepting that it is potenially your fault however it can still be fixed. I know dope seems like a fun thing to do and to smoke but to be honest is it worth loosing potential relationships over. I would say to approach this girl tell her your sorry that you were unable to text her and possibly give her a bunch of flowers or reassure her that you are going to show her that she does mean more to you than she thinks and that you are willing to give up the drugs for her. See men sometimes find it harder to understand girls from a young age are tould about the dangers of drugs, the abusive relationships that comes with drugs. Im sure you are a lovely man but its just that often women get scared as they realise that when people are on drugs they can be different people and at the end of the day she ovbiously liked you for you when your not high. You know? Think about it yuo say this girl is extermely beautiful now what is more beaufiful a 2 hour high of a joint or a relationship with this girl? You need to let her know that your sorry for not being able to talk to her but you want to make it up to her and show her that you would pick her any day over drugs. Hope this helps good luck Mickkiee x
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