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writes:What do you think i should do? We have been together for 3 1/2 yrs. We will be getting married in Aug. but we have a slight problem he continues to converse with his ex. Should we be getting married?
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reader, elsie  +, writes (13 May 2007):
 as long as these conversations with his ex dont interfere with your relationship or infringe on your privacey then let it go.perhaps you need to elaborate on your question?
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reader, maryann61181  +, writes (12 May 2007):
 I agree with the other answers, but would like to add a few comments. If you feel threatened by the type of relationship that they have, then you need to discuss this with him. If you don't feel like you could trust him, then you should not marry him. Why don't you try to become friends with her also, that way you don't feel like something is up? I know that doing this is difficult, because I too have experienced this. The father of my child is friends with all his ex's and expects us to be friends as well. I feel differently about the situation. I don't feel men and women can only be just friends, but that's just me and I'm assuming many others at that. It all depends on the situation, and ultimately the decision is yours.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (12 May 2007):
 He sweetness,
I would write out a long reply, but it's exactly the same as CD's and I don't think I can put it any more eloquently. If he wanted to marry her, he would. Being friends with an ex is alright, trust me. I'm friends with just about all of my exes, and it in NO WAY interferes with my relationship and the love I have for my man.
If this guy loves you, let him. Don't worry about the ex.
xxIndia
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reader, cd206 +, writes (12 May 2007):
 Do you love him and do you want to be married to him? If the answer to both these questions is yes then you should marry him. You've been together for 3 and a half years. He's friends with his ex, nothing more nothing less. If he wanted to marry his ex he had plenty of opportunity to do so. I think it would be wrong to forbid them from talking, the best thing you can do is try to accept it and realise that he is marrying you because he loves you, not her.
CD
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