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writes: I was best friends with a guy for about a year until we started dating and we grew extremely close over the time that we were dating. He, however, had to move away due to the death of his mother and it became rare that I saw him. Hearing things from different people about him seeing another girl, and found out was true. The new girlfriend and my now ex are now dating and seem to be pretty obsessed with each other. My ex now seems to want to completely forget me and says he hates me, when I know for a fact that just a few months ago, we were head over heels in love. I never did anything for him to hate me, or even dislike me, so is it possible that he really does or is just putting on a front for his new girlfriend. If this happened to be any other guy, I wouldn't care but when it's with someone who was your best friend above all else and still has the nerve to hurt you with everything he's got, I begin to wonder... What do you think is the reasoning behind all of this, if there really is any or if he just really does hate me and wants me out of his life.
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reader, MsAgonyAunt +, writes (4 December 2006):
Hello
I think the reason for this may be as he is still getting over the death of his mother.
You say you were best friends, best friends dont end there relationship like that.
Try speaking to him with out his new partner around and just ask him to explain whats gone on and even if he doesnt want another relationship with you maybe you can work on being friends again.
It sounds to me that he has had alot to deal with from moving away from you to the death of his mother, maybe he is still try to getting over that!
I hope it works out for you!!
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (4 December 2006):
 hi there
i believe ur ex is very immature and inconsiderate, bcos whether or not he is puting a front for his new gf thats not the way to treat an ex regardless of the friendship u had bfore u dated. to say he hates u its probably his way of pushing u away as well. so what u need to do is to learn to let go and pick up the dignity u have left after all this humiliation and move on with ur life its over and i dont think even if he may wants u back this is the person u will want to be with there is no excuse for his behaviour u were there for him when he had lost his mother which is good, but now that he is coping he realised he hates u, so accept that and move on u deserve better. good luck
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reader, Gwendolyn +, writes (4 December 2006):
 I agree. i think he needs counsleing for dealing with his issues.
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reader, moomoomoo  +, writes (4 December 2006):
 sounds like it was just a front for his new gf, but i also think that he's been some rough emotional times and messes up people's feelings, it becomes confusing.
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