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writes:Hi- I have an important question that could really change where my life is going, but it is pretty embarassing and I don't think most people will understand. I am super self-conscious about dancing, and every time I go to a school dance (only a few actually), I have never danced, and when I tried to I looked like a total idiot with ppl laughing at me. My main problem is that school dances in high school are major social events. Prom, sadie hawkins, etc. I'm a guy, and I have had a girl ask me for the sadie hawkins dance before that I might have fancied but I made an excuse, because I didn't want to dance and that it was inevitable if I go with a date. I have a feeling something like that will happen this year, and I really want to get this fear out of my system because I want to attend prom. Any advice on how to dance like a normal person or act on the dance floor? I don't think I can take dancing classes at the moment without my parents knowing, since they probably won't let me. I am stupid enough to watch music videos, but so far I have only copied one thing and I just seem so artificial when I do it. Plus, it seems like people just spontaneously come up with different moves every few seconds, for me it's not like that.. I don't move automatically, everything in my mind is like planned. thats just the way i think.. so... any advice people? IT would greatly help me, and my life in the future, since occasions with dancing are inevitable. Oh yeah, and I have no problems with slow dancing... just everything else.. Answers like "just do what you feel like! express yourself!.. just move!" unfortunately don't help me in the least bit =(.. i don't feel like I can copy others in the moment either.. anyone who can solve this problem for me i owe everything in the world to. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): Maybe try dancing like you want people to laugh at you
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (4 December 2006):
 Put on some of your favourite music, lock your bedroom door so no one can bust in on you and practice in the mirror and see for yourself what looks cool and what doesn't. Or copy what you see in music videos and practice in front of the mirror in your free time until you perfect your moves. It is important that you listen to the music and feel the rhythm of it. Find the rhythym and move to it. move from side to side, nod your head to the beat. Go with the flow.
It's hard to give you advice about dancing since I can't demonstrate for you by typing on the computer! lol. I tried! I hope this helps. You really need a personal physical person to be with you to show you how to dance. A dance teacher. Not someone typing written words. Maybe you could try and convince your parents to let you go to dance classes. Make a deal with them. You do some extra chores and in return they send you to dance class. It could work, give it a try.
Plus you've gotta have confidence in yourslef and don't be preoccupied with what other people think. You'll never enjoy yourslef if you're worried about what other people think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): Can you not get on the dance floor when it is crowded and just chill out and not turn it into an experience. Enjoy yourself and have a laugh. If you must plan it out then try watching a video or two with dancing on it. In the sitting room copy it and then try putting it into practice on the dance floor. My bloke has two left feet but he gets out there and i dance around him, not my handbag. I'm sure you are not as bad as you make out. Come on Fred Astaire get out there.
Take care and have fun!!!
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reader, dummyduckling +, writes (4 December 2006):
 Right.... i think my best advice is to listen to the music that is most likley to be played at these events and practice dancing to them in front of a mirror or if that fails then ask a close female friend to help you out. if u ask a male friend your more likly to be mocked and laughed at where as a very close female friend is more likey to take pity. ask her like this " hey... um i have a problem and i could use your help" then explain your problem but do this where your just talking to her and where no 1 else can hear you. most girls would be quite flattered that a guy is admitting he needs help lol. now assuming that your friend says she will help you invite her to your place and go to ur room and play some tunes and take it from there ask her how to dance to it without looking "artificial" as you say. i really hope this helps have fun on the dance floor.
Dummyduckling
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