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writes: Right well I dunno where to start... I was with my girlfiend for 17 months. For the first year we was fine. Nothing could faze us. It was us against the world, so to speak. Everyone that knew us thought we were a great couple and we could go the distance. We were meant to be, even though we were only 16 when we got together. For the 1st year everything was great. Nothing went wrong for us. Then after that we started arguing over silly little things, looking back on it.But we are both stubborn, so neither of us would back down. So 5 months down the line, we thought it would be best to split up.How very wrong I was I? Now truly know I love her more then anything and being without her kills me. We have been split up for a month now, and even though we talk about getting back together, it still hasn't happened. She says she still loves me and thinks we deserve another chance, but then after saying that, the next she seems to go cold. I don't know what to do. Do I move on? Hang in there and hope something happens? Please help me as I've run outta ideas....thanks
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (7 February 2006):
 I was left wondering what the cause of the arguments were here. They may have been silly little things but things that come to the surface in 'silly' ways often reveal a much more underlying serious issue. First thing I would say is that you need to get to the bottom of that if you are to have any hope of getting back together.
You say that she goes hot then cold on getting back together. To me that would suggest that there is something still bothering her and this maybe the underlying issue. I think for both your sakes you need to sit down and have a really deep, no holds barred, discussion about how you are feeling. Hopefully from there you will better know what to do.
Start from the premise that you love each other and part of that is being open about how you feel with each other. Talk things through and see what the issues are, if they are surmountable then if both of you are willing then hopefully you will get back together. Hope that helps.
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reader, chrissymarie +, writes (7 February 2006):
 maybe it would be best if you two dont talk for a while, i know its going to be hard and painful but sometimes people need to go there seprate ways........and then a month or so she will relize that she wants to be with you and then you two could talk and work it out all over again...moving on from her maybe a good thing but in the long run it wouldnt be because you still love her and then u get into a relationship with someone else and you would not feel the same, you would still be thinking about your ex and be hurting the one you moved on with....my advice is stay single for a while until you feel ready and confident to move on so you dont hurt the one you moved on to...
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