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writes: I have been thinking very much about the question I'm about to do,before I ask I would like to give a little of more info, I'm dating a girl which is amazing, she really treats me so perfectly that I'm defintely very much in love with her. She tells me the same and does things that makes me see how much she loves me. Let's put it this way, words can not describe the feelings that we feel for each other. But I want to show her that I love her even more. We are very young. I'm 20; she is 17, We've been together for a couple of months and I feel that we don't have a normal relationship like other couples do at our age, I mean we love way beyond that! As I could see it from our friends...Now the question is as follows:Because I love her so much, I want her to know that I'm fully commited to her and only she is my love and the lady that I dream of, I would like to get engaged.But I'm not familiar with the engage line what exactly means, please help me and explain.*Does it mean that when you engaged you have to be married in a certain time ?* How Long Do you have to be engaged for ?* And the Main one, What is with the term engaged ?Thank You so Much in advance,Including www.dearcupid.org team, you guys/gals are the best !!!Peace & Love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): Wow! Thats really exciting and a huge step towards the future. Before you decide to do so ask youself the following questions:
Is this love or lust? If she had a car accident or a severe tradedy, that left her disfigured would you still want to be with her?
Financially, are you independent from your parents? Keeping a household is a huge responsiblity
Are you happy in your own skin?
Do you share similar views on religion? Is there a compromise?
Do you share similar family values?
Do you want to have children?
Where do you see yourself in 5, 10 20 years...is she on the same page?
Sure, you both are really young, but it's not to say that young marriages don't work. I am 31 and when I was 19 my boyfriend proposed to me (without a ring). I said yes and we continued to date. A few years later, I graduated from college and we went our separate ways. Knowing what I know now, I would never have been happy with him. I am now dating (soon to be engaged....he just bought a ring) an amazing man. We have been together for a year and a half and plan on having another two years before we get married. Good luck....but remember Good things come to those who wait :-)
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reader, becky05 +, writes (8 July 2005):
I wouldnt advise getting engaged at the moment.Engagement is a promise to marry someone, id wait till you know this girl better before youy ask her to get engaged. Its still a bit soon in your relationship.
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (8 July 2005):
Being engaged, means you have promised to spend the rest of the life with your special person.
Engagement times vary...some folks are engaged for a year or two, other folks have long term engagements (4 to 5 yrs)
But since you have only been together for a few months, I would advise NOT yet becoming engaged.
The first few months of a relationship is intensely romantic.
Around the 3 month period, you may notice some "flaws" in your mate, but may view it as endearing and sweet.
After several months, your head will drift slowly down out of the clouds & your feet will be more firmly planted on the ground...if your relationship is still solid & you're very much in love...then REJOICE...you're doing Great !
At the one year point...a couple usually knows if they want a long term commitment...if it's mutual, then it's time to plan a special romantic evening your mate will never forget...a cherished memory of the night you proposed to her !
Take your time sweetie....get to know everything about her...all her ups & downs....Time will tell you if the 2 of you are headed for marriage.
In the meantime, savor every wonderful moment with her !
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