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writes:Should I send my boyfriend naked pictures of myself? I am abroad this semester and he will be abroad next semester, and we are trying to think of ways to deal with our sex drive without being with other people. We are dedicated to doing this. He said that it might help. He is trustworthy and wouldn't do anything to hurt me, but I read someone else's post about this and there were a lot of cautionary comments about what can happen to the pictures. What should I do? Should I take some but leave my face out? (but this seems very impersonal to me.) Any suggestions for how to make this work?limitations: USA and EuropeNo mobile phone that can send the picsPolaroids might take too long in the mail, and I don't have that kind of camera.Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): I don't even know if this is only about trusting him not to intentionally send them to someone.
Is he cautious? What if a friend or someone needs to use his comp some day and he forgot to log out? What if stores them someplace where anyone going through his comp can see them...? What if his comp needs to be repaired and left at a shop for a while... These are potential ways in which your pics can end up on the internet.
Oh, and dont be under the impression that webcam convs cannot be recorded! Still, if you trust him absolutely to not record it, yes, a webcam may be a good idea.
Not a good idea. And he would get bored of naked pics after a while. Then what? In an LDR since you cannot touch the person everything else is only a distraction. Let him use his imagination insetad of sending him a pic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): If he's a good decent trustworthy guy, then why should you worry he will put them online after a potential breakup?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): If you feel this is the only way to keep your sex life alive, then do it, but just know that there is always the possibility of other people seeing them and there being consequences for that.
Have you looked into other options? What about using a webcam and a free program like Skype? It worked well in my LDR, and I didn't have to worry about anything we did on it getting out to anyone else.
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reader, curiouscatxoxo +, writes (30 January 2010):
I would send pics to my boyfriend in a heart beat bc i trust him completely. If you have to ask, it means you DON'T trust him completely and that alone means, leave your face out of this. trust your instincts, it sounds like they're telling you that these pics could come back to bite you in the ass.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 January 2010):
There is one issue, and that is if you split up, he might put them on the internet, or they may find their way onto the internet or something anyway. You have to do what you feel comfortable with, but just be careful. Remember all those people who have had their photos put on the net and been made to look like fools.
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