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*walke26
writes:My girlfreind and i have been together over four and a half years. We both love each other dearly but there are problems in our relationship.We both want different things for the future. I want us to both live together, do some travelling then start a family. Unfortunately my girlfreind doesnt want to live in this country anymore. She wants to move to Turkey with her mum and sister. She wants me to go but i dont want to, i have a well paid job and a good life. Shes not sure if she will ever want children and doesnt want to live with me in England, but she will live with me in Turkey. We both want to be together but are being pulled apart by what we both want for the future. Could i have some advice please.
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reader, loving arms +, writes (22 February 2009):
i think you need to let her go, we only have one life and shoudn't expect someone to change to suit what we want. That said, you need to find a soul mate, someone who wants to travel, experience the world and life just as you do. Then later settle down to a family life. We need to start life on a good footing, many things especailly life goals should be similar. Let her go, if she comes back then that's great, if not someone who shares your dreams will come along. Good luck xx
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (22 February 2009):
 She is probably not the girl for you. You may love each other now, but it takes more than love to make a long term relationship work out. Let her to go Turkey, she might change her mind and come back. If she does not, you are plenty young enough to find someone you have more in common with. Believe me, you do not want to be in a relationship where one of you wants children and the other does not. That is a deal breaker to me. One of you will have to make a supreme sacrifice and it will not end good for either of you. I wish you the best.
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reader, Luaris  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 Is she aware of what you want? If shes not tell her. If she is but you two are arguing over it then I would suggest that since you said you wanted to live togehter and travel why not LIVE WITH HER...and her mum and sis...and TRAVEL to Turkey to live there for a while. Its not like she'll wanna live with her mom and sis forever, and maybe living with them will make the thought of just you two living together more appealing. Also you said you wanted to travel THEN have kids so since theyre not exactly your very next priority then you have time for her to warm up to the idea eventually anyway right? Thats what I suggest.
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