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writes:I really love my boyfriend but he doesn't want the same as me. I want a house but he doesnt i want kids he doesnt and eventually i want to get married but again he doesnt. If we both want different things then i shouldnt be with him. I just dont know how to end it with him. Can anyone give me some good advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): i have finaly realised that my guy will never committ fully to me,no marriage,no kids,no living together and i want all this so i have choosen to break it off,stay with my parents and find myself a guy whom wants the same as i,wasting my time and life with a guy who wants to be single always is not for me
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reader, shiraz +, writes (23 September 2008):
hiyahh your both young and unlike us girls guys dont have a five year plan! they feel there still young and want to be carefree and immature for as long as possible they feel the way they are is normal but given a few years hell be ready to settle and have that secure lifestyle. but it seems that by then youll be gone!
It not just the settling down part thats making you want to end it is it? i feel that what you once felt for him has gone and this is one way of showing it. you clearly no longer want to be with him so end it give him all the reasons why, by just be honest with him.
with you both heading in different directions he should respect your discion and go off leading his life the way he wants too.
its going to be hard and nobody can predict his reaction but as he is aware of how your feeling i dont think itll come as a shock.
i hope this helps and all goes well xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): If you enjoy his company--I am not so sure I would end it completely. However, if what you want out of the future isn't what he wants then you may need to discuss it and possibly start seeing other people. As long you continue to give all your time to a man that---in the long run, doesn't want what you do-you will be dissappointed months from now. You can't change someone into wanting what you want and you shouldn't give up the opportunity to meet someone who does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): move on to someone who wants the same things out of life that you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): You already said you both want different things out of life, so I don't see what the problem is. Break it off by simply saying, "why waste anymore time being together if the outcome will never be what we want?" Why waste time with someone or something that will never happen? You are probably missing out on alot of opportunities to meet and be with someone who shares your dreams and your future.
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