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writes:I have been in a relationship for 15 years. To start with we made love without missing a single day for 7 years. Then things started to dwindle and we went 4 years without making love, but when I recently mentioned this he vehemently denied this and accused me of losing my memory. Since then we often go several months and when I try to instigate things he pulls away. Every night he cuddles up but does not want to go any further and doesn't want to discuss it. He said that he cannot get aroused just by looking but I have said that at our age that is common, and when I touch him his member jumps to attention but he still pulls away and says that he is not interested. Help me I really dont't think I can cope! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): Why did things start to dwindle, if you can describe the context? The desire to make love can be inhibited by too much stress at work for example, or a general exhaustion, or depression, and that instinctive energy decreases with the age but in your case it seems to have been too abrupt a change, while my description is rather based on "cumulative effect." Is he at least affectionate in a "friend" like manner?? More likely, could he be experiencing medical problems and refuse to have them treated out of embarassment/stubborness?? More information about the family life? Have you tried the "romantic dinner"? Have you watched late love movies together that bring back memories of "when we first met?" Have you changed in behaviour towards him, since this problem, or before it occurred? Can you give us more details? Now, a more superficial idea, are you into fashion, taking care of your clothes and general image? The situations here teach that the visual stimulation is important for men. I can even think that the 7 seven years without break can gather too much tiredness to the organism and then the imminent collapse. And then sometimes the attraction simply gets blurrier with the time, I do hope there's a manner to bring it back. Again, more insight please?
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reader, bubbles 3388 +, writes (27 August 2007):
bubbles 3388 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do still wish for help replies please.
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reader, bubbles 3388 +, writes (23 August 2007):
bubbles 3388 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't think this is the problem, but his phone is locked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): This does not sound good...just to be safe, I would check his phone and computer to make sure nothing funny is going on..........
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