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writes:Ok so one of a really great friend of mine had her boyfriend dump her after she told him she might be pregnant, anyways it's really complicated in that area but what happened was my best friend had sex with the boyfriend and she told me.I had been helping the pregnant girl through everything, the breakup, the lies people were telling her, the pregnancy and just so much stuff.Well when I found out that my bestfriend had sex with the boyfriend I felt it was my friend's right to know so I told her even though my friend said not to tell her.But the thing is I'd been there for her through it all, everything and I was the only one who understood how upset she was, I couldn't just start keeping stuff from her.The girl found out I told her and now hates me.I love her, she's my best friend :(. What do I do?Oh and I have been denying that I told her. :(I never usually lie. :(
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reader, Tray-Lou  +, writes (25 August 2007):
personally i don't think you should have told her as it has only complicated matters and made yuor pregnant friend feel worse, best friends keep secrets its as simple as that, i know you've helped your pregnant friend through alot but you should have thought firstly what it would achieve if you told her and if it would have made a difference but shes already split up with him the best you could have done is just emphasize what a creep the guy she was with was and just made sure she didnt get back with i am not judging you but remember your best friend didn't have to tell you and the fact that she did meant that she trusted you would keep it a secret. the best thing you can do is just tell your best friend you made a mistake and thought you were doing the right thing moraly but also that you should have respected your best friends trust that she had in you.
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reader, redshoes83 +, writes (22 August 2007):
 You've done the right thing, why would your best friend ever sleep with another girls boyfriend. Especially after all this happened. She should understand that you have a loyalty to your other friend too and that she did wrong. She shouldn't be angry at you - she should be sorry. I think this best friend of yours sounds thoughtless and only out for herself, and trying to make herself look good. You are just being honest. Do you really want to be friends with this girl after the way she is treating you for being truthful? I am not saying that you go around shouting about what your friends are doing to everyone, but you were trying to do the right thing by both your friends. Anyway, stay strong, I don't think you should get into too much confrontation with your 'best friend' but just let her know that she should be more regretful of what she has done. I don't know if this helps, it's just what i would do. xxxxx
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