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writes:I love him but he doesn't make me feel like he's in love with me. He swears he is and shows it in his own way but its not enough for me. Its been a year and half. We're great friends but the fact that he just doesn't love me the way I want to be loved always comes up. When he knows I'm upset, he takes me shopping and expects that to suffice. I know I have to end it somehow...I'm just not sure how.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the responses!! Yes, I have told him how I felt numerous times, he just can't get in step physically. He is either too consumed with his own repetative thoughts to reach out and touch someone or asleep. I feel lonely although I'm right next to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): Hi,
Why don't you tell him how you want to be loved if it's more attention you are seeking tell him if it's more sex tell him men are creatures of habit ad usually don't break that habit till it's mentioned so TALK TO HIM HE IS NOT A MIND READER!
Sometimes we all have different needs to be met and what he thinks is loving and caring you don't so you really need to address this go for a nice romantic meal and talk over all these issues you will find he probably thought he was doing all the right things probably thought he was making you happy etc; IT IS SO EASY JUST DO IT TALK!!
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (11 May 2007):
 I'm sometimes fighting with the same problem... But because I my boyfriend makes me talk about my feelings when things go really bad, I can share my innermost thoughts and he tries to understand me and vica versa.
You say, he swears he is in love with you and shwos it in his own way, but this way is not the way you would understand or you like him to do. So how then would you like him to show you? What would be the way you would understand and believe him, he really is in love wiht you? Try to figure out what you wish and then tell him! We women always think our partner should know. We think a man would just feel it and wish he would anticipate our every wish - but men don't work like this. I wish they would, but they just don't. So that means as a women you would have to tell your partner everything thing you wish he would do. But also we don't always know what a man wants, so they have to tell us aswell.
If you are not sure, which way you would like him to show you his love, there is a principle of "The Fife Lagnuages of Love". If you would like, I will try to explane it to you.
Don't end the relationship with him because of this. He really trys hard and I believe he really is in love with you. And when you show him, how you would like him to show you his love for you, I'm sure he will do his best for you! Good luck!
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