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writes:I dont know if i am pregnant or not? I am 14 years old and had sex 3 weeks ago, i haven't missed a period yet but i am so worried. I should be coming up to my period in a few days but i am so tired all the time , and my breasts have become bigger and tender, i always feel sick but i don't actually throw up and my tummy really hurts. I feel like im bloated or getting fatter and i keep having mood swings. what should i do ? Me and my boyfriend used protection and nothing went wrong and it never has before but i cant help worrying :S
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reader, Helper1022  +, writes (5 February 2009):
Take A pregantcy test esy as that and its illage to have sex at 14 if ur in the US Dont tell any1 im ur age to um take a test and maybe ur just growing
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reader, coucou206  +, writes (3 February 2009):
 On another note.
I dont beleive in saving myself for my husband!
Its really sexist, because its not easy trying to find a virgin man at marriagable age (which is???) because they get tempted! Yet women (who enjoy sex, too, you know!) have to hold out for their husband, and not know what to do! Just incase they did it with someone better!
I know quite a few girls at my school who've lost thier virginity , that doesnt make them a slut it makes them experimental, and when was that a crime?
I'm not saying every 14 year old should go out bonking but really, abstinence is overated!!
Ccxxx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 February 2009):
 You are right lots of people have sex before marriage, but most people don't get married till they are n their 20s.
I know you feel hard done to here, but you have to appreciate a majority of the questions on this site are "I'm 14 and might be pregnant" at first you think "AWW poor thing" by the 50th it just shows that sex education and respect for parents is non-existent in your generation.
And to be honest you're replies to this topic are not helping you prove that you are a mature adult ready for adult relationships.
I really hope your boyfriend loves you as much as you love him, will he stand by you if he does get you pregnant? Don't answer that... Just think about it.
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reader, 80sfashionista. +, writes (3 February 2009):
 Well hun, you're not supposed to be opening your legs at such age in the first place. Temptation is a bitch I guess but yeah just go seek a private doctor and get a blood test or something. See if you are .
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for all your answers. but tbh 'cathay' you have no right saying that because im in love with the person i've been having sex with so yeah and dont say thats stupid because its not and i know what i feel. and i want to marry him and noone else and my opinions not going to change and alot of people have sex before they get married anyway... :/
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 February 2009):
Which brings me back on to my original point! Go to a Doctor
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reader, coucou206 +, writes (3 February 2009):
Yeah, but you broke that promise - so if you are pregnant, girl, you have to face facts - they wont be pleased but surely they'd prefere you went to them first?
They'll be mad and angry, and I'd sugest talking to your mum alone, rather than your Dad.
BUT WAIT! Get a test first, wait until your period is deffinately late, then go and see your Mum.
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reader, cathay +, writes (3 February 2009):
 I think you are crazy. For a girl of your own age you should be worried about homework and crushes and not sex. Its not right. I do hope you get pregnant so that you teach other teens out there that sex is not worth it. Don't you respect the man who will marry you? If you love him you should have spared your virginity for that man. I just think you are plain stupid for what you did. You should take full responsiility for what you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know he hasn't got any diseases because last year my parents found out bout' me and him having sex and he had to go get checked out and so did i and there was nothing wrong. But i cant go to my parents because i promised them i wouldnt do it again...
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 February 2009):
Well you seem very grown up about the whole issue! well done you! So please tell me what you know about chlamydia I'll give you a clue it's not a flower or a girls name!
I really advise that you both go to a sexual health clinic, has your boyfriend ever been with a girl before you? Do you know that many STIs have no symptoms?
Most adults will go and get checked out before getting into a sexual relationship out of respect for their partners, so as not to pass any nasties that you can easily pick up.
Don't see this as me having a go at you, but you really need to take your sexual health seriously, otherwise when you do give birth you are likely to pass something nasty on to your new born child.
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reader, coucou206 +, writes (3 February 2009):
Yeah, but you shpuld still get yourslef checked out?
I would recommend that you get a pregancy test BUT DONT WORRY!
Trust me this stressing wont help, and it could delay your period, making you even more anxious.
If you are pregant, go to your Mum and get things sorted. You'll have plenty of time for kids later on, trust me.
Coucou xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes they have had the 'TALK' with me and we used protection fgs and have had sex loads of other times and nothings ever happened and it was put on properly. and i dont need to check for sexually transmitted diseases because i have been with my boyfriend for a year!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 February 2009):
You are an IDIOT! This is why it is illegal for under 16s to have sex! Go to your doctor or the local sexual health clinic and get tested for pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. If you don't know how to see if you are pregnant or to book an appointment with a doctor, you really aren't ready to be sexually active.
STOP HAVING SEX until you are mature enough to cope with real life! Have your parents not had the "Talk" with you yet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Sorry, I didn't read the part saying that you DID use protection. Well, that's good, but maybe you guys didn't use it correctly. There are instructions in the box.
I just realized how funny this question is "13-15 girl, worried about being pregnant because condom wasn't put on correctly". That tells me that you are not taking responsibility for your actions, because it sounds like you don't want to get pregnant, but I'll be the one to say it. If you didn't want the risk, why do the act in the first place?! Are you just trying to annoy people with this question or what? Plus, there are tons of help sites for teen pregnancy and teen sex, why post it here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Either buy a pregnancy test at the grocery or get one from the school nurse. I think those ones at the nurse's office is free? Anyway, good luck and try to use protection next time and talk to your mom about using Birth Control if you are sexually active. Otherwise, try to abstain from sex for now, not until you are ready to handle the consequences of it. It's your life, you have to take care of it!
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