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writes:Valentine's day is nearing and i'm worried.. very worried. This'll be the first valentine's I've not been alone. Valentine's a day before mine and my girlfriend's 3 month 'anniversery'... which makes me feel yet more under pressure. I was thinking of keeping it simple and having a picnic but it's far too cold for that here in England. What would anyone suggest? I appreciate any help... I'm hopeless!I'm 16.. not sure if that's relevant or not.Thanks much x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): get some condoms and have sex all day and night..shell really like it
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): If u cant afford a meal out then use your idea of a picnic but just do it inside - have a carpet picnic. You could scatter rose petals and i love the 5 roses idea.
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reader, The old Man?  +, writes (3 February 2009):
 No need to worry, you're going to do just fine. You sound like you're on your way to being a romantic sort of guy! The idea that you are thinking about this in advance is a very good thing!
How do you feel about getting her five red roses with the trimmings.(baby's breath & the greenery) You can have them arranged in a vase, or do it yourself.
When you present them to her, explain that three of them represent the 3 months you've been together, and how much you enjoy spending time with her.
The fourth is saying that you want to continue being with her,and look forward to many more happy times together.
The fifth is to say "I love you"!
I realize that the standard is 6 or 12 roses, but be unique! Falling into the pattern of the "norm" is not setting you apart from the other guys. That can sometimes look like you put no thought into it, even though you did!
I understand the picnic idea, as it's cold here in the Midwest USA also.Great idea, Bad weather! Maybe you could take her for lunch or dinner, at a small restaurant that is cozy yet not beyond affordable! Avoid a place that will be flooded with too many people your own age! That will definitely make a statement!
Being it's Valentines day, they might be very busy. You may want to call well in advance, like tomorrow or the next day, and see if you need reservations.
I hope this helps, and the best of luck to the both of you!
If there is anything else I can do, feel free to send me a message.
Joe~
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 February 2009):
 I hate the pressure that is put on you for valentines day. Why in a loving relationship should you save up all your romantic gestures for one day, when roses are more expensive, all the restaurants are fully booked and the world seems to be full of smug couples!
But that is not your question, I advise a single red rose and a card for valentines day, but make your anniversary the special day, you will be able to find a nice restaurant that isn't fully booked three days later, tell her that you want your anniversary to be special, and that valentines day is a bit cliché.
Make sure you make your anniversary really special though, dress up tell her to dress up, Book a table for two at a restaurant you have only ever walked past and thought "not for the likes of us" be a gentleman, get doors for her (including car doors) pull her seat out at the table, just do everything to make her feel like the only girl in the world, the simplest little things make all the difference, girls love attention to detail.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): No, No. You are not hopeless. If it makes you feel any better. This will be my first Valentine's alone, so be happy you have someone special. lol
But, at your age, I can understand why you would want something simple. Maybe you could buy her some balloons, flowers, candy and such, and surprise her. Maybe spend Valentine's day inside, and just cook for her. Make her feel very special. Show your appreciation for her.
Whatever you decide to end up doing, wishing you love, happiness, and joy on the most romantic day of the year. =-)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 February 2009):
Take her out to a posh restaurant. Somewhere she has never been. Buy her a rose and wear a suit or something really smart.
At your age, your girlfriend will be really impressed at being treated like a real lady so pull out all the stops, hold the doors, be a complete gentleman and tell her how beautiful she looks.
You'll have to book in advance and it may cost you about £40 so ask her in advance if she would mind you having one big treat for Valentines and your anniversary, or 2 little ones. You can always take her on a cheap date to the cinema for your anniversary as well. Actually, it might be better to do the cheap date for Valentines but tell her that you will make up for it on anniversary day and then it'll be far easier to get a table at a posh place.
Have a look around at websites of places in your area, I am sure you will find something you both like and they will be doing deals. Italian is always a good bet for a bit of romance.
Good Luck!! xx
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