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writes:ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month but we're really serious im in college and i stay with him... we are so in love..but, we recently took a break and i had sex with 2 other guys...1 which i regret and the other i'm happy it happened. but on the other hand i feel so bad bc even though me and my boyfriend dont have a title im still like his girlfriend...what should i do...?...he said if i had sex with someone else he would not talk to me anymore, and i love him, but i just make stupid stupid decisions...what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): How would you feel if he told you that he slept with two girls?
Would you feel worse if he told you or if someone else told you.
I don't think he has the right to know. But if you love him you won't want him to be hurt more by someone else telling him.
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reader, missindependant  +, writes (1 October 2008):
 This is really hard on both sides as yes you were having a break and you needed comfort at the same time - fair enough. But on the other hand technickly you were still seeing him so your in the wrong to of cheated. My advice is that maybe if you wanted to be with others that much thats showing maybe you two arn't ment to be but also makes you realise how badly you need him. So my suggestion is that you follow your heart and you do whats best for you. Yes the truth hurts and lieing causes pain and heartbrake. It's bad on both sides. After all you don't have to tell him everything and if he can't trust you is he really worth it? Thats what you have to think of.
Thats my advice
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reader, Minxy68 +, writes (1 October 2008):
Hmm! I dont understand how anyone who claims to love each other and have only been dating for a month would have a break!!! Why was the break, and who suggested it? If it was my man who wanted a break after only a month and he claimed to love me, well I wouldnt call him my man any more. If it was yr man who wanted the break you should walk away quick fast and find a real man! Dont put up with what you dont want or makes you unhappy.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 October 2008):
So he doesn't want to commit to you or even call you his girlfriend.... and you take breaks in the relationship but you are not allowed to see anyone else?
You say he hasn't given you a title... I'll give you one.
"Door Mat."
He walks all over you! Get some self respect and get rid of him. You don't have to tell him anything of your business.
Find a man who respects you or stay single.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, jstar92 +, writes (1 October 2008):
 Usually the reason for breaks is because we are allowed to do these things. usually in a relationship both of the people will see different sides to the whole *break* issue, don't feel bad about it. You didn't have a title whilst on the break so what you did in your life is none of his buissness, of course, because he said he will never talk to you again probably means he won't see it the same way. You can either be honest with him - and risk him never talking to you again or you can keep quiet with the piece of mind that you were on a break and therefore was not obligated to remain faithfulxox
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