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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of over 2 years and I broke up a few weeks ago. He hasn't called or messaged me since. He told me he still loves and cares for me. Then why isn't he wanting to know how I'm doing? Before we broke up we were always either messaging or on the phone when we weren't together. Were the past 2 years nothing to him if he can just one day stop everything all together? I have missed him and wondering how he is doing so I have messaged him, but he hasn't done the same and sometimes he doesn't even reply. I have kept my contact with him to a minimum, but I'm upset that he hasn't even had the urge to get in touch with me.Why doesn't he care?
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 Ooh seems to me like you have not got over your ex and it is you who is stressing over no contact.
Perhaps he feels like it is better to keep his distance right now so that both of you can move on, it isn't that he doesn't care it is just that he probably feels that by staying in touch means that your dependency on him continues and that is not healthy.
I would give it a few months and see what happens.
If it is a birthday that comes up then send him a card or something but other than that leave things well alone.
You need to move on and you won't do that if you are staying in touch with him right now.
Who broke up with who btw?
You need time to heal from this relationship and need to keep yourself busy by being out with friends or having a break with them but just not constantly thinking about what he is up to. When the time is right he will probably let you know but I think he is doing the sensible thing right now.
I think you need to see why you are so bothered about the lack of contact? It is your insecurities not his that seems to have taken a knock right now. You need to make yourself strong again emotionally and physically so that you can move forward with your life.
Take care.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): He needs the time to be alone
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