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writes:After breaking up, does anyone ever question the relationship??? Like whether or not they really had something special or whether or not the other person really loved them at all??? My ex broke up with me several months ago, and now, i'm starting to wonder...did she ever even love me??? Did we actually ever have anything, or were we just together to be together. We were going out for almost three years, but now i'm having doubts if what we had was something....I know you can't really tell from just this info, but just wondering, does/has anybody else ever felt this way after a break up??? During the relationship i felt like we had something, but now i'm just starting to wonder, and i just wanna know if this is typical...Thanks :)
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 Oh yes it is very typical as you start to doubt yourself and when you are in a relationship you just jog along thinking OK this is great or fine but it is only our friends or family who can truly see whether a relationship seems to be working or not, when you are in a relationship you are too close to it to know for real or not.
I guess the answer to your question really is if the relationship was so special then why did you break up?
The obvious answer to this is NO it wasn't.
What you can take from it though is if you had good times during your time together then just be grateful for that as a lot of people don't even have that so just remember the good times and now move on and find a person who will truly make you happy. There are no guarantees in life and you just have to try your hardest and to be a decent person, if you gel with someone then that is great and if it grows into a deep strong loving relationship then brilliant but we all have to try on a few people before we always find that, for some people it can be that first person and for others it can be several before then find the right person for them.
Keep fishing is what I would say to you and unless you have answers from your ex then you will never truly know where it went wrong as it takes two to make or break a relationship as it is never just one person's fault on the whole.
Take care and hope some of the above helps.
BFN
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): Yeah I think it's normal. Especially since I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago and am having the exact same thoughts :)
It's hard! I think there are just so many emotions you experience after a break up and maybe it's just easy to think that maybe the relationship wasn't as real as you thought? I don't know exactly what it is, but I think a lot of people must go through this.
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