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*nly4him
writes:Im about one month pregnant me and my boyfriend are still living together but we broke up because he doesnt know what he wants. when his ex found out about me a year ago she started to call him more and more maybe because she didnt want him with my kids and she would constantly ask questions about me and my kids and ask what he would do for them etc and then as time went by he started to feel guilty spending time at home with my kids when he can be over there spending time with his kids. so she started letting him go over every day to her moms where she lives and be with the kids and they have been going out doing family activities and im left alone everyday. and he said he doesnt know if he wants to get back with her, he would love to be around his kids all the time but doesnt know if she has changed or is just being nice to get him to go back with her. and he said he has a little feelings for her. and he says they broke up because they couldnt get along but now he doesnt know. he says he doesnt feel attracted to her like wanting to do stuff with her and when they spend time together its always with the kids they don even sit together or touch or anything,i believe him he is the type to always speak the truth. he tells me he thinks maybe he would want to take her out just him and her and see what it would feel like. and said he doesnt know what he wants so my question is should i stay living there and see what happens or should i leave now and leave this time for him to figure out what he wants and i get sad because maybe me leaving will just make him get closer to her. and then he says maybe he just wants to be single to be able to go when he wants without any problems. he tells me he is still upset about me being pregnant he didnt want another baby and he doesnt even know how his kids will feel about it. he is 28 and im 26 , his kids are 4 and 5 and my kids are 2 and 5 , his ex is 30 and they have been separated for almost 3 years. what do i do?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 Guys who have issues with girlfriends getting pregnant make me mad. I understand the first one could be unplanned, but 5 kids? Either use a condom or not do it at all? You should leave now and stop hoping he would come back, or miss you.
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reader, only4him +, writes (26 February 2010):
only4him is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe wants us to get a bigger apt because he doesnt want to leave me alone in this. If he really had plans to go back to his ex why would he do this? I know i shouldnt see it as maybe we will get back together. Im just so confused just like a wk ago he said he wanted us to get a bigger place as a couple. But my parenting would always make him feel diff. And once we foun out i was preg then we just seperated. I dunno maybe there is a chance for us in the future if he decides he doesnt want to get back w. His ex and me just give him space
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reader, only4him +, writes (26 February 2010):
only4him is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim so scared to leave also, im goin to have three kids and be alone. i asked him if he thought we still had a chance and he said he didnt know and he said he is till mad at the fact that i got pregnant.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 February 2010):
Let him go. He is clearly still attracted to his ex. If he loved you, he would be with you and nothing would stop that. Find a guy who does love you.
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