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writes: I split up with the father of my son who is nearly nine five years ago and still havent got over him. I get jealous if he gets a new girlfriend and get abusive and text him and ring him and make a scene. My life is just waiting for him to ring why cant i move on i imagine that one day we will get back together and have not had a boyfriend since we split up will it always be like this why cant i move on
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reader, Evangeline  +, writes (11 December 2006):
 Having a child with someone and then splitting up with them is extreamly difficult and heartbreaking. You still feel very attached to this person for obvious and completely normal reasons. As you have had this child with this person, you have not been able to have the distance needed after the break-up (as i presume the child has a relationship with the father and that you have to discuss things like schooling etc). Remember when the majority of people end relationships - they have nothing to do with them for a long time after, and this is the best way to deal with it, is some time apart. It is doubly as hard for you as you have had to bring up this child and so you probably dont have the freedoms that a single woman would have without the child. It must be hard to find time for yourself and to meet new people. You must remember that it wont always be this way, and that you will meet someone else and not see the father of this child as 'the love of your life', because there are many people out there who would suit your needs and give you the relationship you desire. Its hard to 'get out there' in your situation so just enjoy going out and seeing friends when you can and try not to let your x stop you from having the life you want and deserve.
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reader, tiny-problems +, writes (11 December 2006):
 Time is a great healer, but in your case it doesn't seem to be working. Just try to think more postive and look to the future there's always plenty more fish in the sea. If you're not ready for a lad yet, give it time, you'll naturally get over him on your own. Just do something you enjoy and treat yourself. Maybe a night out with your freinds you never no who you will bump into!
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