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writes: Okay, im fourteen years old, and me and this boy sam have been mucking around together for the last month.its a secret fling which i loveed, and we would do sexual things to each other.it seemed perfect, none of us got hurt, i liked this other boy, but i also had sam.and im sure it was the same for him. i never got upset when sam fingered another girl, coz i still had the other boy..cept i didnt want to mess the boy around so i ended wateva we had, and now sam nos i did it for him.i gave him head again on sat night, and he licked me out, and it was fine we were back to our routine, cept he then went and got with my friend.she doesnt no about me and him, so its not her fault. im really upset now, but i really dont want to fall for him.hes gorgeous and every girl hes been with him hs fallen head over heels in love with him, which is why we kept it a secret..and now i think i am..but i canthow do i stop it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006): Tell your friend whats been happening between the two of you and how badly he has treated you and then hopefully she too will be able to see that this boy is just a waste of space with a huge ego
Your worth more than that
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (12 December 2006):
 Confusing isn't it? Well people a lot older than you get into this sort of love triangle mess all the time. Fortunately you are learning a lesson here at a really early age so you won't let yourself be used by a boy/man again (hopefully). It saddens me that you are settling for a no-strings sexual fling at your age. You cannot have a steady relationship with this boy because you have sent a message that it is ok that he has sex with other girls - it comes down to self-respect. I wouldn't want to be swapping bodily fluids with someone who is making their way through the female population in the area. There is so much more to having relationships with the opposite sex than just sex. You need to be friends and you pair are not good friends - you are in lust for his looks and not thinking too much of yourself and he just thinks of you as a body to paw when he has nothing better to do. Like yourself enough to say no to such emotional torture and leave him alone to do his sexual experimentation elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): he is DEFINATELY taking you for a ride, i understand sex / sexual stuff without strings can be fun as long as no one gets too emotionally involved, but in every single case i have ever known, some one does start to get emotionally involvd and some one gets hurt. I have been there and its not nice. To get him off your mind, do something you enjoy - a hobbie - or go out with your friends. And 14is very young - you have your whole life to be getting involved in physical stuff enjoy your childhood while you still have it xxx
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (12 December 2006):
 Wow, Sam's taking all of you for a ride and none of you can see it. How do you stop it? You realise you are being completely used and start to see him for what he really is.
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reader, Nikita +, writes (11 December 2006):
 Hi Little girl, It seems to me that this boy Sam has got it made. He's got every girl at his beck and call including you. My advice to you would be to stop having this kind of relationship with him. I know its not what you want to hear but it seems to me that he's using you and your friends. he knows that sexually, he can get what he wants. I know that you like him and he's gorgeous but there are other boys out there who will treat you better and respect you because I dont honestly think he has any for you. If you cant stop seeing him and you have full sex please use contraception. Im sure you dont need me to tell you that but be careful. Try, though, to end the sexual aspect of the relationship and focus on another boy, maybe the one you finished with for Sam? In the end, you'll only get hurt if you continue letting him use you like this. Good luck. I hope you can work it out.
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